carhill Posted November 14, 2008 Posted November 14, 2008 So Carhill, does that mean you reserve calling a woman beautiful only on special occasions? IME, the feeling is like a wave (meaning it ebbs and flows, though I do not believe it is purely "occasional" or "situational") but, over time, it always appears to be there. It can come from a friend or a romantic interest. Perhaps incorrectly, as we live in an apparently three dimensional universe, I call it the "third dimension". It is as if, in comparison, those unrevealed appear much as brush strokes on the canvas, yet to be brought to life by the spirit of the artist. I've experienced it is as recently as a couple months ago and as long as a generation ago. The continuity is truly inspiring. Oh, BTW, I don't say "you look beautiful".... I will say "you look lovely tonight" or some such, but will always say "you *are* beautiful"....
pandagirl Posted November 14, 2008 Posted November 14, 2008 IME, the feeling is like a wave (meaning it ebbs and flows, though I do not believe it is purely "occasional" or "situational") but, over time, it always appears to be there. It can come from a friend or a romantic interest. Perhaps incorrectly, as we live in an apparently three dimensional universe, I call it the "third dimension". It is as if, in comparison, those unrevealed appear much as brush strokes on the canvas, yet to be brought to life by the spirit of the artist. I've experienced it is as recently as a couple months ago and as long as a generation ago. The continuity is truly inspiring. Oh, BTW, I don't say "you look beautiful".... I will say "you look lovely tonight" or some such, but will always say "you *are* beautiful".... I believe beauty is directly correlated to the essence of a person, not necessarily what they look like. Guy have called me hot, pretty, and cute, but nothing is more of a compliment to me than when say "you are beautiful," because then that I feel like they see me as a whole person.
lovestruck818 Posted November 14, 2008 Posted November 14, 2008 You don't want them to look at you as a hot ass girl because then they'll just want to sleep with you. And honestly, for me, I'd rather a girl be cute than hot because when you're cute, it makes me want to spend more time with you and actually be with you, but when you're hot, then I got all my friends asking me if they can hit it and it just becomes a problem. Essentially, you want them to want you for who you are but physical attraction is always the first playing factor in many situations (Which sucks because society has brought forth this sort of proposition that looks are very important). Anyways, just be yourself is all that you can do and let the rest unfold. Someone WILL eventually want you for who you are. Also, girls with a lot of make-up = turn off. Read more >> Options >> You're first sentence is exactly right...and that's why I can't find anyone genuine, thus why I am single. Being "hot" is a curse, not a blessing. I'd rather be ugly b/c then it would force someone to see me as a person and not a sex object.
Shygirl15 Posted November 14, 2008 Posted November 14, 2008 Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. Who cares what other men think.
Trimmer Posted November 14, 2008 Posted November 14, 2008 Guys what are you attracted to? The woman who makes you think, wow she is beautiful! Or she is cute! I'm attracted to both, as well as other individual characteristics. The more important point is that my continued interest in someone is dominated by what happens after those first 10 or 20 or 60 seconds... Whether she's cute, beautiful, quirky, or whatever, my continued interest depends on the "whole package" including personality, intelligence (which I'm finding more and more attractive as I get older...) etc. My thought is that if the difference between "cute" and "beautiful" is making any kind of difference in someone's interest in you after the first few minutes, then you have a pretty shallow person in front of you.
Author sweetbutcheeky Posted November 15, 2008 Author Posted November 15, 2008 Honestly, I think the hottest girls are the ones who are cute and really sweet...but in the bedroom are naughty and sexy. It's like the best of both worlds. Well that's why I do like being considered cute most of the time, cause there is another side of me that they may not see and I can surprise them! Don't judge a book by it's cover! hee hee I was just checking a new message I got on a dating site and the heading was Your Cute! LOL What can ya do! lol Well am off for a date and will see if he thinks I am cute! hee hee
Author sweetbutcheeky Posted November 15, 2008 Author Posted November 15, 2008 Well am off for a date and will see if he thinks I am cute! hee hee Hey what do ya know! I got a beautiful and a pretty tonight!
carhill Posted November 15, 2008 Posted November 15, 2008 When you don't get that on the first date, you'll know you have a potential keeper.
tkgirl Posted November 15, 2008 Posted November 15, 2008 I've heard both about myself... I think it's how a guy "feels" about you. To me when a guy says someone is beautiful is like they have that "wow!" feeling... almost like the put you on a pedestal or something. When I guy says I'm "cute" it's more like I'm the buddy he could hang out with but also finds me atractive enough to maybe sleep with (if he was so lucky!) I take both as a compliment and consider the source as to the difference between them. I just know if I really like a guy and he tells me I'm beautiful, then I'm like "yahoo!!!" But if he tells me I'm cute, then I'm like "okay..." like there's still a chance, but we will most like end up just friends.
Author sweetbutcheeky Posted November 15, 2008 Author Posted November 15, 2008 When you don't get that on the first date, you'll know you have a potential keeper. When you don't? No saying all a guy has to do is say your beautiful and I fall for him or anything. But I'm sure some guys are sincere.
carhill Posted November 15, 2008 Posted November 15, 2008 To me, it is all part of the mating dance. See, I know that a woman knows by how I look at her and by my body language that I find her attractive, "cute" and all those things. She senses this right away. Waiting to verbalize it saves something for the future. Anticipation I do make some positive comments. I remember, on my wife's and my first date, upon her arrival, I laughed and said "you're late and I'm hungry"
Charles1978 Posted November 15, 2008 Posted November 15, 2008 Someone mentioned earlier about girls becoming beautiful the more you get to know them. That is so true. I had never experienced that before until I met the girl I'm currently pursuing. When I first met her, there really wasn't the instant physical attraction. Sure I thought she was cute, but she's a skinny little thing. But the more time I spent with her and the more I got to know her, the more attractive she became to me. It's a weird thing. That's never happened to me before. But she just gets better and better in my eyes. My friends tell me I can do better... especially my girl friends. But they just don't understand. It's all new to me, that's for sure.
cheezy100 Posted November 16, 2008 Posted November 16, 2008 Guys what are you attracted to? The woman who makes you think, wow she is beautiful! Or she is cute! I ask because I feel stuck in the "cute" category, not matter what I wear or makeup or not. (though always look younger too no matter what so that may be some of it) Cute girls want to be the sexy one too! lol I'm in the same position as you. When I went on my very first date with my boyfriend, he text messaged his friend saying "she's CUTE." He said that there are 3 categories he thinks of women: 1) beautiful (lee hyori), 2) cute, 3) wifey (kim tae hee). Do a search on those ppl's name; sorry they are korean cuz he's korean , but i'm chinese. He said I'm more in the CUTE category. I'm happy, but i was disappointed. My bf never told me I was beautiful, but more so when I dress up to a club or on a date-date, he would say "you look nice today" or "you look pretty" but never said "beautiful." I would notice that he non-stop stares at me even in the car while we go to our destination. I mean, like you, I also want to be sexy and beautiful at times too. I'm a pretty conservative person that barely wears any boob-showing shirts, but I wore this really "sexy" costume with full blown "chest scenery" on Halloween. I was a Forest Nymph. He really liked it because a lot of skin was showing. I noticed that a lot of random men liked it too while I was walking on the streets. why? because I got the boobs. no kidding, my bf is now bold and comfortable enough to say that I have pretty "big ones." Kind of uncomfortable at times, cuz i don't know if he's just with me because of my chest or because of who i am. He told me that his friends rate me an 8/10 on that HB scale that most guys use. I'm a chubby girl/woman, and he said that his friends said that if I thinned out, I could be a 9. But to him, he told me I was a 10 to him. I'm not that bad looking, but I'm just chubby and overweight. I'm not HOT, I know that. But I have a really good personality and always think positive, and I smile a lot, and I care about ppl more than myself. So I can count myself as "pretty-cute"...haha....
Isolde Posted November 16, 2008 Posted November 16, 2008 KMT said it best, even if you're fat and ugly someone will fall all over themselves to get you. If you're "cute" you already have an advantage. Girls, stop being so insecure.
Ocean-Blue Posted November 16, 2008 Posted November 16, 2008 I only care to be beautiful in the eyes of my lover. I actually feel uncomfortable with the whole "beautiful" label when it comes from an unfamiliar, third party. Of course, my parents think I'm awesomely beautiful.
Author sweetbutcheeky Posted November 16, 2008 Author Posted November 16, 2008 I mean, like you, I also want to be sexy and beautiful at times too. I'm a pretty conservative person that barely wears any boob-showing shirts, but I wore this really "sexy" costume with full blown "chest scenery" on Halloween. I was a Forest Nymph. He really liked it because a lot of skin was showing. I noticed that a lot of random men liked it too while I was walking on the streets. why? because I got the boobs. no kidding, my bf is now bold and comfortable enough to say that I have pretty "big ones." Kind of uncomfortable at times, cuz i don't know if he's just with me because of my chest or because of who i am. So I can count myself as "pretty-cute"...haha.... I consider myself pretty cute too! hee hee I don't think that you have to show skin or boobs to be sexy or beautiful.
SushiX Posted November 17, 2008 Posted November 17, 2008 I prefer cute over beautiful. Guess everyone has their own preference.
Author sweetbutcheeky Posted November 18, 2008 Author Posted November 18, 2008 I prefer cute over beautiful. Guess everyone has their own preference. One person's cute can be someone else's beautiful. I like cute in a guy or unique. Most of the time I don't mind being cute.
Citizen Erased Posted November 18, 2008 Posted November 18, 2008 I used to wish I was considered above cute. Now it doesn't really bother me. Spending time thinking about it will only give me frown lines.
Isolde Posted November 18, 2008 Posted November 18, 2008 I don't think I could ever fall for a guy that didn't have SOME element of cuteness, vulnerability, or boyishness to him. To me, cute is above avg looking but nonetheless still a personality trait more than anything else. (FWIW, guys shouldn't be offended to be called cute--I know a lot of mediocre looking AND hot guys that I wouldn't consider cute because their personalities suck). Of course, hot and cute CAN be combined in one. If a guy has both these things--I lose all sense of reason, lol. It's pretty rare though
Trimmer Posted November 18, 2008 Posted November 18, 2008 (FWIW, guys shouldn't be offended to be called cute--I know a lot of mediocre looking AND hot guys that I wouldn't consider cute because their personalities suck). Hah, I wouldn't mind being called "cute" as it is usually followed by a period and the end of the sentence. Much worse is to be called "nice" as it is usually followed by a comma, and the word "but..."
Author sweetbutcheeky Posted November 18, 2008 Author Posted November 18, 2008 I don't think I could ever fall for a guy that didn't have SOME element of cuteness, vulnerability, or boyishness to him. I don't consider cute meaning boyish, I think it was said about a female too. Cute meaning young looking or juvenile. I don't think it has anything to do with that at all. To be it's more boy or girl next door, natural, kind genuine (cute). Vs made up, over dressed, trying too hard (beautiful). Though what I mentioned for cute can be described as beautiful as well, natural beauty.
Lucky_One Posted November 18, 2008 Posted November 18, 2008 I don't consider cute meaning boyish, I think it was said about a female too. Cute meaning young looking or juvenile. I don't think it has anything to do with that at all. To be it's more boy or girl next door, natural, kind genuine (cute). Vs made up, over dressed, trying too hard (beautiful). Though what I mentioned for cute can be described as beautiful as well, natural beauty. I was going to reply just that I was out of luck apparently, as I am neither cute nor beautiful - I am merely pretty. Now, the men that have fallen in love with me call me beautiful, and I am sure that I am to them. But I surely didn't like your response that I quoted. I have seen a lot of "natural, kind and genuine" people who are truly beautiful, and I have seen a lot of over dressed, made up, trying too hard people who would have been cute if they didn't look so ridiculous. Why the stereotypical semi-ugly post about beautiful people? Do you really think that they are all over dressed, made up, and try too hard?
LittleDove Posted November 18, 2008 Posted November 18, 2008 According to what ive read here, I must be 'hot'.curse curse curse. I had a guy break up with me, because his mates wanted to 'hit' that, it gave him issues. My X said I was hot, cute and beautiful...but he was a liar! I think its in the eye of the beholder. I cant rate myself..
Author sweetbutcheeky Posted November 19, 2008 Author Posted November 19, 2008 I was going to reply just that I was out of luck apparently, as I am neither cute nor beautiful - I am merely pretty. Now, the men that have fallen in love with me call me beautiful, and I am sure that I am to them. But I surely didn't like your response that I quoted. I have seen a lot of "natural, kind and genuine" people who are truly beautiful, and I have seen a lot of over dressed, made up, trying too hard people who would have been cute if they didn't look so ridiculous. Why the stereotypical semi-ugly post about beautiful people? Do you really think that they are all over dressed, made up, and try too hard? What part of "Though what I mentioned for cute can be described as beautiful as well, natural beauty." Did you miss? Since when is being called merely pretty so horrible? You made my point "would have been cute if they didn't look so ridiculous" Your taking it too seriously, it wasn't about beautiful people if you read the original post. It was just a fun post about what guys prefer, joking about myself because I get called cute a lot.
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