sweetbutcheeky Posted November 12, 2008 Posted November 12, 2008 Guys what are you attracted to? The woman who makes you think, wow she is beautiful! Or she is cute! I ask because I feel stuck in the "cute" category, not matter what I wear or makeup or not. (though always look younger too no matter what so that may be some of it) Cute girls want to be the sexy one too! lol
zachary85 Posted November 12, 2008 Posted November 12, 2008 Whilst cute girls can still be pretty desirable, I personally think girls who are truly beautiful will always have the aesthetic edge. But that's probably just because I'm an aesthetically obsessed person I'd like to ask how you feel regarding the same about guys. Cute or handsome?
lovestruck818 Posted November 12, 2008 Posted November 12, 2008 Whilst cute girls can still be pretty desirable, I personally think girls who are truly beautiful will always have the aesthetic edge. But that's probably just because I'm an aesthetically obsessed person I'd like to ask how you feel regarding the same about guys. Cute or handsome? actually it's the opposite...i'm a very beautiful woman and it's hard to find someone genuine b/c of it. Guys always either want booty or arm candy from the "hot chick"...no one actually wants to get to know the person I am. They just see pretty face and go on automatic bang pilot. I have feelings...and they seem to forget that.
BrooklynBridge Posted November 12, 2008 Posted November 12, 2008 actually it's the opposite...i'm a very beautiful woman and it's hard to find someone genuine b/c of it. Guys always either want booty or arm candy from the "hot chick"...no one actually wants to get to know the person I am. They just see pretty face and go on automatic bang pilot. I have feelings...and they seem to forget that. That's interesting that you say that. I'm a guy, and I've had the privilege to date some extremely beautiful hot women. And ALL of them were yearning to meet someone with substance and intellect and so many guys don't realize this and approach these beauties in the completely wrong way.
PDPullmn612 Posted November 12, 2008 Posted November 12, 2008 It depends. I've actually had girl friends that I thought were cute when I met them but as I got to know them they became beautiful me. I know it sounds corny but its true lol
JohnnyBlaze Posted November 12, 2008 Posted November 12, 2008 I tend to go more for cute women. Not because of aesthetic preference, but more because of comfort level...their comfort. Although I'm a nice, sweet guy, I look like your typical biker. I look a little scary, I hang out in places that look a little scary, and I ride with people who look (more than) a little scary. Beautiful women tend to steer clear of that kind of scene, while cute women are more likely to say "what the hell, I'll give it a shot". At least, that's what I've found in my experience. Besides, there's also a Pavlovian element at work here. When enough beautiful women blow you off (in the bad way) or shoot you down like a bomber over Berlin, like it or not, it does start to affect you. A dog can only be smacked over the nose with a newspaper so many times before he shakes at the sight of the paperboy. That's not to say that I wouldn't like to date a beautiful woman. Not only are they beautiful (duh), but quite often, they're intellectual sleepers; they're usually much brighter than people give them credit for. But it just doesn't look like it's in the cards. anything with a pulse:) That used to be my criteria as well, but then I thought "why limit myself?".
GoodOnPaper Posted November 12, 2008 Posted November 12, 2008 Don't underestimate "cute" -- often, it translates (at least to me) as "beautiful" with a hint of attainability, which can be very sexy! Unfortunately, many guys at all levels of dating market value look to the universal attractiveness of the women they attract to meet ego or self-worth validation needs. Just from this thread, you can tell that "beautiful" women are considered the "prize". I've always had a LOT of trouble attracting women, and it didn't take me long to start dismissing women for being "too" attractive because I figured that I had already been dismissed thousands of times for the same reason. Besides, there's also a Pavlovian element at work here. When enough beautiful women blow you off (in the bad way) or shoot you down like a bomber over Berlin, like it or not, it does start to affect you. A dog can only be smacked over the nose with a newspaper so many times before he shakes at the sight of the paperboy. Of course, at the same time, I was judging a woman's sexual potential strictly by her looks. Ultimately, I'm realizing is this outlook is flawed and that personal connection trumps virtually everything. If I could go back and re-live my youth, I would work to make fewer assumptions and make stronger connections, instead.
fral945 Posted November 12, 2008 Posted November 12, 2008 OP, FWIW, I'm called "cute" a lot (though almost never sexy or handsome ). It probably has to do with me looking young for my age, soft facial features (pinchy cheeks, no facial hair, and less chiseled features). I accepted a long time ago that I am not going to have the "hollywood" sexy male chiseled features. I also tend to go more for girls that are cute as well (like JohnnyBlaze, I tend to attract cute girls more than the stereotypical beautiful women). As I get older, I realize I tend to like the cute girls better and find myself more attracted to them anyway. You will find plenty of men (like me) who consider girls that are cute also beautiful. Cute just might be the first description that comes to mind and out of their mouths.
JohnnyBlaze Posted November 12, 2008 Posted November 12, 2008 Don't underestimate "cute" -- often, it translates (at least to me) as "beautiful" with a hint of attainability, which can be very sexy! ... Just from this thread, you can tell that "beautiful" women are considered the "prize". I wouldn't say it's so much "the prize". (At least, in my case) it's just general differences. It's like a guy who dates brunettes all his life wanting to date a blonde (oh wait, that's me too!). He doesn't necessarily want to date a blonde because blondes are better, but because they're different. And I never said that cute girls weren't sexy. The "girl next door" isn't so popular because she keeps the music down at night! I find that I get along better with "cute" women. Cute women tend to be more casual, and I need that - I certainly don't stand on formality. Yes, I can say that I want to date a beautiful woman. As I've said elsewhere in this forum, I can give you a complete list of the characteristics of my perfect woman. 95% of the qualities on those two lists won't match up. You just can't plan who you'll fall for. Beautiful and cute can both mean gorgeous. It's all in who makes your heart flutter. I've always had a LOT of trouble attracting women, and it didn't take me long to start dismissing women for being "too" attractive because I figured that I had already been dismissed thousands of times for the same reason. Yeah, that's my problem! I'm just too darn hot!
CommitmentPhobe Posted November 12, 2008 Posted November 12, 2008 Guys what are you attracted to? The woman who makes you think, If you'd have left it there that would have been ok
Trialbyfire Posted November 12, 2008 Posted November 12, 2008 sbc, it doesn't matter if you're perceived as cute or beautiful. Just avoid the superficial guys 'cause the grass will always be greener. No matter how good-looking you are, the superficial guys will get accustomed to it and most often, these same guys rarely care about what's inside of a person. When this happens, it's pretty easy to go hunting again, when they're not terribly invested.
edinsvet Posted November 12, 2008 Posted November 12, 2008 That used to be my criteria as well, but then I thought "why limit myself?". It was a joke.
kashmir Posted November 12, 2008 Posted November 12, 2008 OP, FWIW, I'm called "cute" a lot (though almost never sexy or handsome ). It probably has to do with me looking young for my age, soft facial features (pinchy cheeks, no facial hair, and less chiseled features). I accepted a long time ago that I am not going to have the "hollywood" sexy male chiseled features. I also tend to go more for girls that are cute as well (like JohnnyBlaze, I tend to attract cute girls more than the stereotypical beautiful women). As I get older, I realize I tend to like the cute girls better and find myself more attracted to them anyway. You will find plenty of men (like me) who consider girls that are cute also beautiful. Cute just might be the first description that comes to mind and out of their mouths. At my age, 'cute' seems to be the only word to describe guys. I've never been called cute...handsome, but not cute. Girls want cute. Women want handsome. But honestly, terms that describe someone's looks are so general. What I find beautiful and cute is totally different from what another guy might find beautiful or cute. For me, it's also a matter of behavior. A girl's looks will take me so far, but their expressions, their smile, their behavior, and their minor quirks will determine whether I really find them attractive. One thing you've gotta remember when you see a very physically attractive girl - chances are she's either mean, egotistical, or really freakin stupid. I'm sure there are beautiful women out there who are great inside too, but from my experiences, a lot of "hot" girls are not so hot when you talk to them. As for the OP's original question, cute can be sexy just as much as beautiful can. When I think of cute, I think girl. When I think of beautiful, I think woman. Cute females (in my eyes, of course) are usually shorter, possibly plumper or not as athletic (which is perfectly fine). They tend to radiate a more welcoming and friendly vibe, and they also seem a lot shyer. Beautiful females generally taller and look more mature. They tend to radiate a more mischievous clever vibe. They seem to be more outgoing and confident of themselves.
julkat Posted November 12, 2008 Posted November 12, 2008 JohnnyBlaze, I'm laughing because I'm one of those girls who only like to date bikers, because I'm one myself. But I don't look the type and so I'm often passed over because I look too "cute" or "nice" to be taken seriously by any "real" biker. I just happen to be a professional in sales and need to look that part most often. But I can drink beer and keep up on my Harley (and often leave some of the boys in the dust lol) as well as anyone!! Cute's not all its cracked up to be!
Author sweetbutcheeky Posted November 13, 2008 Author Posted November 13, 2008 Whilst cute girls can still be pretty desirable, I personally think girls who are truly beautiful will always have the aesthetic edge. But that's probably just because I'm an aesthetically obsessed person I'd like to ask how you feel regarding the same about guys. Cute or handsome?Personally never been attracted to the Brad Pits, so I guess the cute or unique. I like beautiful women who are cuties and who have honesty, integrity, intelligence, spontaneity, quirkiness and their own strange ways.Great answer. Of course I didn't mean that cute woman weren't beautiful. sbc, it doesn't matter if you're perceived as cute or beautiful. Just avoid the superficial guys 'cause the grass will always be greener. No matter how good-looking you are, the superficial guys will get accustomed to it and most often, these same guys rarely care about what's inside of a person. When this happens, it's pretty easy to go hunting again, when they're not terribly invested.Never meant it mattered, was just a curiosity. Wouldn't want a guy to only cared about the outside, what a turn off! As for the OP's original question, cute can be sexy just as much as beautiful can. When I think of cute, I think girl. When I think of beautiful, I think woman. Cute females (in my eyes, of course) are usually shorter, possibly plumper or not as athletic (which is perfectly fine). They tend to radiate a more welcoming and friendly vibe, and they also seem a lot shyer. Beautiful females generally taller and look more mature. They tend to radiate a more mischievous clever vibe. They seem to be more outgoing and confident of themselves.I think since to each person beautiful and cute mean different things, eyes of the beholder. So I don't really agree with your opinion of the 2 but to each their own. You mentioned "When I think of cute, I think girl." Which is why I wondered if to guys my age they think cute cause I look younger, where to a younger guy maybe not so much. I'm 30 but most think I am 24ish, my hair dresser on my first visit asked me what grade I am in. Since they don't have grades in college I'm assuming she meant highschool! LOL How cute! Hopefully I look a little older with the new hair cut! When I think of Cute woman I guess the girl next door, natural, babyface I guess. Am I those things? Hmm I dunno but as I said depends on the beholder. What got me thinking about it is I met a new guy friend (friend) and we were talking about dating, guys and woman and being single. And he said your cute, a lot of guys would be attracted to you. And I was thinking, hmm I think that was a complement! LOL
4dviceJunki3 Posted November 13, 2008 Posted November 13, 2008 You don't want them to look at you as a hot ass girl because then they'll just want to sleep with you. And honestly, for me, I'd rather a girl be cute than hot because when you're cute, it makes me want to spend more time with you and actually be with you, but when you're hot, then I got all my friends asking me if they can hit it and it just becomes a problem. Essentially, you want them to want you for who you are but physical attraction is always the first playing factor in many situations (Which sucks because society has brought forth this sort of proposition that looks are very important). Anyways, just be yourself is all that you can do and let the rest unfold. Someone WILL eventually want you for who you are. Also, girls with a lot of make-up = turn off. Read more >> Options >>
2sure Posted November 13, 2008 Posted November 13, 2008 There is nothing wrong with "cute". Some guys like cute, some like beautiful. From your description you are caught in "cute" and want to change that. You might consider this: Cute = spunky/fun/young (although may have zero to do with age) Beautiful = classy/entertaining/mature (again, not always an age) Its all about attitude, not looks. But if you wear something classy, your attitude changes. If you get a sassy haircut - you feel more fun.
Author sweetbutcheeky Posted November 14, 2008 Author Posted November 14, 2008 There is nothing wrong with "cute". Some guys like cute, some like beautiful. From your description you are caught in "cute" and want to change that. You might consider this: Cute = spunky/fun/young (although may have zero to do with age) Beautiful = classy/entertaining/mature (again, not always an age) Its all about attitude, not looks. But if you wear something classy, your attitude changes. If you get a sassy haircut - you feel more fun. No don't want to change it, just some days I would like to be the sexy/beautiful one, then go back to cute. The reason I said stuck is because even when I get dressed up and so on as you mentioned I still get the cute. Though I consider myself spunky, fun, young and classy, entertaining, mature.
kashmir Posted November 14, 2008 Posted November 14, 2008 No don't want to change it, just some days I would like to be the sexy/beautiful one, then go back to cute. The reason I said stuck is because even when I get dressed up and so on as you mentioned I still get the cute. Though I consider myself spunky, fun, young and classy, entertaining, mature. Honestly, I think the hottest girls are the ones who are cute and really sweet...but in the bedroom are naughty and sexy. It's like the best of both worlds.
monkey00 Posted November 14, 2008 Posted November 14, 2008 There is nothing wrong with "cute". Some guys like cute, some like beautiful. From your description you are caught in "cute" and want to change that. You might consider this: Cute = spunky/fun/young (although may have zero to do with age) Beautiful = classy/entertaining/mature (again, not always an age) Its all about attitude, not looks. But if you wear something classy, your attitude changes. If you get a sassy haircut - you feel more fun. I find that to be pretty true. I think there are beautiful woman who are just as nice and sweet underneath too who's longing for the right guy to walk into their life. I'm not afraid of dating or being in a LTR with either one. If I had to choose I'd choose someone who's pretty but can can dress up in a hoodie and cap on not so nice days, and is able to dress up to die for on a night out of a town...of course with a lovable personality. I think at the end of the day, personality if what matters the most and keeps things going.
carhill Posted November 14, 2008 Posted November 14, 2008 Perhaps belying my age, a woman is pretty when she catches my eye and becomes beautiful when she shares the essence of who she is with me. IME, very few women have been able or willing to do that, hence my saying that "I can look at 1000 pretty women and see only one beauty". IMO, discovering true beauty is a life-long journey
pandagirl Posted November 14, 2008 Posted November 14, 2008 Perhaps belying my age, a woman is pretty when she catches my eye and becomes beautiful when she shares the essence of who she is with me. IME, very few women have been able or willing to do that, hence my saying that "I can look at 1000 pretty women and see only one beauty". IMO, discovering true beauty is a life-long journey So Carhill, does that mean you reserve calling a woman beautiful only on special occasions?
Melrapuo Posted November 14, 2008 Posted November 14, 2008 Cute for me. A girl can be beautiful, but a cute girl can have physical attractiveness + the mannerisms the make her just that cute. Makes my heart get all fuzzy.
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