alwayssme Posted November 12, 2008 Posted November 12, 2008 it is the weirdest thing. the guys that i'm not interested in and that usually don't call or text as much...keep chasing after me...i feel mean but it's annoying. Now I guess I see how annoyed my ex must have felt (even though me and him had a history, for my defense lol, i just MET these guys and they keep calling). But I guess I can see how chasing somebody too much can only push them away. Nowww... There is this guy I like and he told me he's interested but I'm feeling weird. It's been so long since I ever put eyes on anyone other than my ex. I have no idea how to handle the situation. This person is my friend also, which makes it even more complicated. I have no idea how to act...lol...I know I don't want to annoy him by calling him too much, but yet he is my friend so it's weird not calling him. And waiting for him to call is annoying. I'm still not completely healed from my ex and the fact that this guy is my friend (and I like him) does make things more complicated. Do I call, do I wait for him to call? Ahhhh!!! the JOY of being single again
Green Posted November 12, 2008 Posted November 12, 2008 I'm actualy in a situation now with a girl who is sort of a friend who I'm not that into romanticly and she keeps calling me and really its my damn fault because I was into her and showed interest but then I lost it and then we ended up cudling on my couch but we never kissed... hmm so in the end I'm going to say let him know how you feel and risk losing him as a friend... but after that make it easy on him to reject you by not calling and just leaving him alone... He'll call you or ask you out if hes interested after you've let him know you are
MichiganMan222 Posted November 12, 2008 Posted November 12, 2008 If you have a friend you are romantically interested it and not sure where they stand, just start throwing in vague sexually flirtatious comments once in awhile and see how they respond. The best way to find out is to tee one up for him to give you. If there's no mutual interest you can both chalk it up to friendly clowning around. If there's mutual interest, it will escalate to not-so-vague flirting and eventually the real thing. My last two relationships started this way. Its kind of fun. LOL
Author alwayssme Posted November 12, 2008 Author Posted November 12, 2008 I'm actualy in a situation now with a girl who is sort of a friend who I'm not that into romanticly and she keeps calling me and really its my damn fault because I was into her and showed interest but then I lost it and then we ended up cudling on my couch but we never kissed... hmm so in the end I'm going to say let him know how you feel and risk losing him as a friend... but after that make it easy on him to reject you by not calling and just leaving him alone... He'll call you or ask you out if hes interested after you've let him know you are Have you ever kissed this girl or done anything with her?
ahhhchooo Posted November 12, 2008 Posted November 12, 2008 When my ex-ex found out I broke up with my gf, she was hanging around again (I hadn't talked to hear in over a year). I never really had anything against her, she dumped me and then tried to come back, but I was with someone new. While I was feeling crap about being dumped... she'd keep on trying to get me back into a relationship with her. I'm sitting there totally uninterested in sex/women or a relationship and she's bothering the hell out of me. She started using ALL the tactics on me that I'd used to try get my ex back. It was disgusting and totally repelled me from her!
lofi_tokyo Posted November 12, 2008 Posted November 12, 2008 I have a handful of guys who are contacting me a TON now, and it too is my fault. When my ex and I first broke up, I turned to a bunch of guy friends for advice, I needed to understand what made guys tick so I reached out and really held onto a small group of guys (each individually). Then I went NC with my ex for three weeks, but in doing so, completely shut off using my computer, my phone, everything! Those guys got really REALLY annoyed I guess that I just cut them out. My mistake :S. This week though, all three of them have came back out of no where and have been trying to like... win me over! Its incredible! Two of them I've kind of had to tell off, because they were getting really nasty towards me for not... giving them more? Its kind of a mess, but not as big as the mess I was in when my ex left me. Soo... it seems kind of small, and easily resolvable.
Trialbyfire Posted November 12, 2008 Posted November 12, 2008 it is the weirdest thing. the guys that i'm not interested in and that usually don't call or text as much...keep chasing after me...i feel mean but it's annoying.If you don't feel like talking to them, just don't return the calls or texts. Or keep the responses abrupt. Nowww... There is this guy I like and he told me he's interested but I'm feeling weird. It's been so long since I ever put eyes on anyone other than my ex. I have no idea how to handle the situation. This person is my friend also, which makes it even more complicated. I have no idea how to act...lol...I know I don't want to annoy him by calling him too much, but yet he is my friend so it's weird not calling him. And waiting for him to call is annoying. I'm still not completely healed from my ex and the fact that this guy is my friend (and I like him) does make things more complicated. Do I call, do I wait for him to call? Ahhhh!!! the JOY of being single again A guy who's interested, particularly one who's been a long-time friend, shouldn't be hesitating in contacting you. If he is, the interest level isn't equal. Let him call you. The rules have changed now that you've both expressed interest.
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