UnamedSeven Posted November 12, 2008 Posted November 12, 2008 Ok I've posted here a few times about this girl who i just cant seem to stay friends with. We've been friends since March but due to issues between me, my best friend, and her, nothing will ever be the same between me and her. Over the Summer, me and this girl were on-and-off friends. It just got to the point where 1) She was so fed up with me, she could careless if i died the next day. 2) The pain of seeing her with my best friend for the past few months (since June) has really eaten at my heart and i just didn't/don't think its worth putting up with the never ending pain (i had a crush on her and shes going out with my best friend. I honestly can't say i'm over her but after everything thats happened, there is absolutely no chance for anything more than a friendship in this life) So, on Halloween, i decided to end it all. I went NC until yesterday where i had to talk to her. By doing so, i've became her friend again because of how unbearable everything has been even for just a week!. She knows im in pain, but she still wants to be my friend. Since we are in the same grade, i am forced to see her everyday.So, this makes it almost impossible to get rid of old feelings. My heart wants her to stay but the other can never accept her as a friend after what shes done to me. Any and ALL help is recommended. I just don't want the pain that i can never escape
DollWelch Posted November 12, 2008 Posted November 12, 2008 Is it worth it? IMO: No. It's not worth it. You're on a path to self-destruction. What makes you think that it is OK to befriend this girl? You must be thinking that she'd eventually come running to your side, confessing how she'd want to date you. That's farthest from the truth. Why? Because, she doesn't appreciate you. Yes, you. Clearly, you don't seem to have much self-confidence, let alone self-esteem. You have to be stronger than that. Meaning, don't be sensible with yourself; make an effort to be reliable as a gentleman, not a flimsy guy. You should move on. Better yet, you should find another girl to befriend on a platonic or romantic level. Go out, and meet new girls. The more you start thinking about other girls, the less you'll be thinking about her. And, in no time, you'll have found a new love interest. There are plenty of girls out there.
Author UnamedSeven Posted November 12, 2008 Author Posted November 12, 2008 Thanks for the advice. Throughout the summer, i kept on befriending her thinking that she would want to date me. So that she and i would be able to forget the Past that haunted us. But, i said something that, somehow, offended her, she showed/told me how she never cared and won't in the future through several messages via AIM. I told her, before the conversation ended that there are people all around this world right now trying to spend their last few minutes here on this Earth, while shes using her time to tell me how wrong i am for having been on the verge of Depression. She responded by telling me i was a F****** hypocrite. I signed off, not wanting to deal with her. I just wanted her to stay as a friend. Not even getting close in any sort. So that, when i see her, i won't be holding back every nerve in my body. She made the last few months of mine, miserable and i can't find how to get my life "back on track". Truly, other than my best friend, who she is going out with (most of my friends are completely carefree in every way), she was the only one. Believe me, i wouldn't even want there to be anything more than just a small friendship which wouldn't include me and her Fighting every time we tried to "talk".
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