Starting NC and the final stretch, some questions.

[SelfCentered]

Okaaaaaaay. I would like to refer you all to this thread http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t169576/ which deals with my backstory.

 

 

So my ex was supposed to go to a gig with me and my friends tonight, to see her favourite band. I had her ticket since it had been a birthday present for her back in August.

 

On Saturday she spoke to me to let me know she was coming. After that day though I decided I would have a word with her after the gig tonight and explain how I didn't want any contact with her. No friendship. You guys know the drill.

 

However she pulled out of the gig at the last minute. She said she had an essay to do. She did offer to send me the cash for it but luckily I managed to find another lad who wanted to go. She also had the cheek to ask me to buy her some band merchandise, send it to her and she'd pay me back. What the hell?

 

That was it for me. I tried to ring her to tell her what Intended to tell her in person. She didn't answer, so she got in in text form. Not how I wanted to do it but what the hey.

 

Even though we broke up 2 months ago, I always knew I would have to see her tonight. Now that it is over, now I've finally cut off all contact, I finally feel like it's really the end. I'm a little depressed- kinda feel like I'm going through the initial breakup all over again- but I know I've done the right thing.

 

So yeah. How do you people deal with this? I know this is the final part of my recovery. My worst moments are at night, usually when I am about to go to bed. I just miss the intimacy of cuddling up to her and talking about little things mainly. What should I do when I'm in my darkest moments at 2am?

 

Appologise for the length. Greatly appreciate anyone who answers.

[sultry33]

Okaaaaaaay. I would like to refer you all to this thread http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t169576/ which deals with my backstory.

 

 

So my ex was supposed to go to a gig with me and my friends tonight, to see her favourite band. I had her ticket since it had been a birthday present for her back in August.

 

On Saturday she spoke to me to let me know she was coming. After that day though I decided I would have a word with her after the gig tonight and explain how I didn't want any contact with her. No friendship. You guys know the drill.

 

However she pulled out of the gig at the last minute. She said she had an essay to do. She did offer to send me the cash for it but luckily I managed to find another lad who wanted to go. She also had the cheek to ask me to buy her some band merchandise, send it to her and she'd pay me back. What the hell?

 

That was it for me. I tried to ring her to tell her what Intended to tell her in person. She didn't answer, so she got in in text form. Not how I wanted to do it but what the hey.

 

Even though we broke up 2 months ago, I always knew I would have to see her tonight. Now that it is over, now I've finally cut off all contact, I finally feel like it's really the end. I'm a little depressed- kinda feel like I'm going through the initial breakup all over again- but I know I've done the right thing.

 

So yeah. How do you people deal with this? I know this is the final part of my recovery. My worst moments are at night, usually when I am about to go to bed. I just miss the intimacy of cuddling up to her and talking about little things mainly. What should I do when I'm in my darkest moments at 2am?

 

Appologise for the length. Greatly appreciate anyone who answers.

 

 

see this as a start to your healing

in your darkest moments come on here or buy a comedy book.. something that help your thoughts a distraction

 

you needed to go nc and closure is done now work on you

 

keep busy and i hope you do well x

[MichiganMan222]

Yes!! This is good for you. Its still tough, but now manageable. I was a wreck. My ex gave me this type of 'final straw' and the NC got easy for me. Me thinks you just got your ticket to heal. Good luck to what awaits you!!! You're gonna like it.