technicolor Posted November 12, 2008 Posted November 12, 2008 So I've been seeing this guy who waited about 2-3 months to even KISS me, because I wanted to be sure what I was getting myself into and that he wasn't just another fling. He was really respectful about it. Well, it's been about 4 months we've been dating and we recently did a whole lot more than just kiss! And it was amazing. We cuddled all night, and the next morning he sent me off with a kiss and a hug. Well...he went on a week-long work trip the day after he and I slept together so we haven't had any face-to-face time to talk. He's sent me a few text messages back and forth just to chat. Most of the time they're just conversational, but here lately he's been sending me these kinky, dirty, messages.--which is cool with me But now I'm wondering if that's all he wanted? Was he just waiting me out? Did he "get what he wanted" so now that's all this "relationship" is? I'm thinking too much into this I'm sure, and I know these are questions I need to ask him, but...I'm just really confused because I haven't dated in about a year since my last long-term relationship. Sex always changes everything and I just want to be on the same page. I'm not looking for anything extremely serious at this point, but it'd be nice to have a substantial relationship. I'd like to ask him, "Hey...so what does this mean now? What are we??" but...don't know how to bring it up without sounding too clingy or weird. Advice?
Vince Black Posted November 12, 2008 Posted November 12, 2008 ...that I've ever heard of waits 4 months and then quits it.
JohnnyBlaze Posted November 12, 2008 Posted November 12, 2008 Agreed. He didn't wait all that time, get a one night victory and then cut bait. He's looking for something long-term with you. I wouldn't bring up The Talk just yet, as it'll look like you're using sex to get a commitment from him, but at this rate, if you have The Talk in a month or two, it's fairly certain you'll get the response you're looking for.
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted November 12, 2008 Posted November 12, 2008 It sounds like he is just excited that your relationship has entered new territory. There's no need to have a "talk". What you need to do is have a little patience and see what happens from here. Does he still set up dates? Do you guys continue to do things together, like go to movies, eat out, take a walk in the park? Let his behavior speak. It hasn't been long enough.
Charles1978 Posted November 12, 2008 Posted November 12, 2008 I'd like to ask him, "Hey...so what does this mean now? What are we??" NOOOO!!!! He obviously likes you and has shown you a whole lot of respect. Like I said in another thread... when I seriously like I girl, I take things slow. Not as slow as 2 months without a kiss, but anyway. That's how I do things. Sure I've had good relationships that started fast. But some guys want to do the right thing with girls they genuinely like and respect. And I'd say that your situation qualifies. Just relax and enjoy the new territory. It's just another step on what will hopefully end up being a good journey.
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