my mate has many women as friend is that a sign of cheating

[pnellis]

i need comment on this topic. if your mate become more interested in talking to his woman friend than spending time with me. what does this mean?

[Geishawhelk]

When you say 'mate' do you mean friend, or do you mean 'mate' as in animal mates.... Do you mean Boyfriend/girlfriend? sexual partner? Significant other?

Each of these is slightly different too.....

And are YOU male or female?

 

You'll need to clarify a bit more before we can give a cohesive reply......

[angie2443]

i need comment on this topic. if your mate become more interested in talking to his woman friend than spending time with me. what does this mean?

 

If your mate is spending more time, thought, energy or whatever on another woman, then you should leave and not look back (unless there's children involved). I've been down this road before and have seen many others on LS in these same kinds of situations. If you don't have much invested in the guy, like children, finances and so on, there is no reason to stay with him and be most likely cheated on in the future. Is there any thing you might be leaving out that might help explain his actions more?

[carhill]

OP, assuming by your location that you mean "mate" as in your heterosexual life partner, boyfriend, SO, etc, it is entirely possible that your mate is cheating. Regardless, his interest and time spent is taking away from your relationship, which should be his interpersonal priority. Merely make him aware of that factor and your boundary regarding it. Take the sexual part completely out of it. Don't assume facts not in evidence.

 

I had this problem with my wife and some of her girlfriends. She began to prioritize them and their opinions over myself and our marriage. No sex was involved (no "cheating") but it was still injurious to our M. She's now aware that such behaviors are unacceptable to me and I will take positive action to enforce them.

 

All that said, if your BF does have female friends (platonic ones) and has had them pre-dating your R, tread carefully. Having had similar, they are just as valuable as male friends and just as valuable as your girlfriends (or male friends). Remember, focus on your R, not on the friends.

 

Good luck and welcome!

[InLimbo2]

Read the rest of the responses - I don't think necessarily means cheating -what does your gut tell you on that? Is this a new woman friend? Or is it an old friend - perhaps who is going through a rough time and is leaning on her friend? makes a difference

 

 

i need comment on this topic. if your mate become more interested in talking to his woman friend than spending time with me. what does this mean?