Chrissy67 Posted November 11, 2008 Posted November 11, 2008 I noticed a few months ago that I lean on a coworker of the opposite sex a little too much. I find myself running to tell him everything and am a little disappointed when he's not in the office. My coworkers are now accusing me of having an affair (obviously, I'm married). The thing is, while I'm not having a sexual relationship, I am growing too close to this person. I started reading about non-sexual office romances and came across this article: http://husbandtribe.com/?p=943#more-943 For those of you who feel a little too close to someone in your office of the opposite sex, I advise you to read this article and keep your office relationships in check.
whichwayisup Posted November 11, 2008 Posted November 11, 2008 So, what are you going to do about it? You may not be having a physical affair with your co-worker, but it's definately leading to an emotional affair - Which can be just as damaging. You need to distance yourself from your co-worker and focus on your husband, reconnecting with him. Stop opening up and talking personal stuff with your coworker. Talk to your husband instead. You're also putting your work reputation in harms way, already there's office gossip about you and this guy.
Owl Posted November 11, 2008 Posted November 11, 2008 WWIU is right (as usual)...you're in the beginning stages of an emotional affair. The only way to avoid heartbreak and tragedy at this point is to BACK OFF, and to change your focus to your marriage, and off this relationship.
grogster Posted November 11, 2008 Posted November 11, 2008 Speaking from very painful personal experience, office relationships frequently morph into full blown extramarital affairs. You begin as professional colleagues, become friends, confide in one another more and more, become office spouses and, before you know it, you're both jammin' like bunnies. Close, time-intensive opposite sex relationships in the office must be avoided. Why? Because it will all go wrong, hearts will break, families will shatter and the world, as you know it, will never, ever right itself. Pull back, make new friends, take up a hobby, but don't continue to buddy-up with your work friend. You've been warned.
jj33 Posted November 12, 2008 Posted November 12, 2008 This is all good advice. I became involved with a colleague and its been over for some time but it is very very very painful even now over a year later when he feels the need to repeatedly mention his wife for no reason in business meetings. Save yourself the pain pull back before its too late. Letting things continue is a conscious choice and yes its a choice. Dont ignore the warning bells going off in your head.
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