Bells Posted November 11, 2008 Posted November 11, 2008 Sometimes, I get the feeling there's some guys in our "Circle of Friends" that don't like me, because I would show interest in the SAME woman they are interested in. I don't know these guys, but just on an acquaintence level, but I don't know if this is true or not. When I try to be nice or talk to them at a social gathering or party they are short with me. Later on, I'd move on to a lady I'd talk to for a bit..take a liking to her after a time....then I notice him taking a liking to her. Later on, I talk to her and so on. Personally, I don't care for drama, so it's not skin off my teeth, however, I get the feeling some guys won't be y our bud...because you're their competition? Ever have this issue?
Ronni_W Posted November 11, 2008 Posted November 11, 2008 Sometimes, I get the feeling there's some guys in our "Circle of Friends" that don't like me, because I would show interest in the SAME woman they are interested in. Bells, Like I asked in one of your other threads...does it not just seem to you that the Universe is asking you to take a serious look at your current "social circle", and maybe expand it, or reduce it, or something??? Not sure, though, if your experiences of other guys being 'cold' to you has anything to do with other women. I'm sure you're well aware that not everyone likes everyone else, which would be one reason for their coldness, BUT...does it not just seem to you that you often attract, or are attracted to, people who are not interested in what you have to offer, and women who are not available for whatever reason? (That's why I'm suggesting it's a Universe-thing -- your 'Power of Attraction' appears to have lost it's power, Scotty! ) Or is that my total misinterpretation of many of your posts?
Adamagnet Posted November 11, 2008 Posted November 11, 2008 I think you are projecting your own feelings onto them. Think of your buds as wingmen, otherwise you are just shooting yourself in the foot. I have a buddy who is significantly better at attracting women than I, but the good thing is the girls he attracts have friends.
jayOG Posted November 11, 2008 Posted November 11, 2008 It depends on how you are perceived. Would you say you are a very dominant male? If so then it is not odd that you would alienate people.
Trialbyfire Posted November 11, 2008 Posted November 11, 2008 Bells, it's okay if the entire world doesn't embrace you as a long lost friend or potential lover. It's okay for people not to get along. It's okay if people like or don't like you. It's okay to be you, enjoying the things you do, being who you are. The time for change is when you're unhappy with yourself or your situation. You cannot change everyone else you come into contact with.
alphamale Posted November 11, 2008 Posted November 11, 2008 Personally, I don't care for drama, so it's not skin off my teeth, however, I get the feeling some guys won't be y our bud...because you're their competition? Ever have this issue? yes, many times but its usually exhibited by the nerdy guys with no social skills who can't figure out why they never can get a date. or...the other thing they do is try to listen to what you're saying to a woman or try to emulate you so that they can be successful with women. in my dining out group there is this one obese nerdy guy who is always observing me and even though he's smiling at me i can see the disdain in his eyes. pretty much the cool and confident dudes who can attract women don't cause any problems...
Ronni_W Posted November 11, 2008 Posted November 11, 2008 obese nerdy guy who is always observing me and even though he's smiling at me i can see the disdain in his eyes. Or admiration. It could simply be that he admires you for your confidence, social skills and successes. But, as you say, it could also be that he is reflecting back your disdain.
alphamale Posted November 11, 2008 Posted November 11, 2008 But, as you say, it could also be that he is reflecting back your disdain. or he could just be jealous
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