ThomasX Posted November 11, 2008 Posted November 11, 2008 Hey all. I feel like I've pushed out all my emotion after losing the girl I love more than life itself. We dated for almost 10 months... but knew eachother longer. Today I just felt numb. I barely felt anything. I think I chuckled at one thing on TV... I don't feel pretty much anything. I can feel the emotion deep in me, I think, but I can't cry. Like, I seriously can't cry. I have to force myself for even a tear to come out. I feel like this is going to be causing long term damage to me mentally. Anyone know how to deal with no emotion?
Rafa Posted November 11, 2008 Posted November 11, 2008 I feel like this is going to be causing long term damage to me mentally. Anyone know how to deal with no emotion? Hey there Thomas, I'm sorry you are going through this. It seems there are a lot of stages to go through, and one of them is kind of like just walking around like a zombie with no emotion. I can assure you that this stage causes no long term mental damage, it's just part of the process. You'll be fine over time, as long as you want to get better. I can almost not believe the difference in myself from even two or three weeks ago. I feel stronger every day, and I'm getting my happiness back on track.... and I'm one of the people who have felt just the way you describe in your post. So just hang in there bro... you are amongst friends, you WILL get through this I absolutely guarantee you!!! It just takes time, some work, as much NC as you can manage, and hanging on to the belief that there are good things for you around the corner. I am living proof. I was a mess not that long ago. Now I'm beginning to feel that this 'new life' without my ex, it's actually quite good. Keep posting Thomo, you'll get there!!
Author ThomasX Posted November 11, 2008 Author Posted November 11, 2008 Damn Rafa thanks a lot man. Glad to hear I'm not turning into some sociopath who doesn't feel any emotion... like some kind of machine. This is the second time I've been through losing love... the first time scarred me pretty badly, you see, and I have never been able to feel emotion as strong since... And I'm afraid this will really do me in this time, you know? Like how much more emotion can I afford to lose? Sure, being a machine sounds badass... but staring at life without the color is a sense you don't ever want to live through, ya feel me? I wish there was a guide to hanging onto emotion ..
pushforward Posted November 11, 2008 Posted November 11, 2008 Just your self defense mechanism kicking in. Right now, everything will seem dull. Things start to lose their shine and everything will be bland. Eventually you get used to it. It's just you in the healing process. Everything will start to come back as soon as you're ready. Think of this as a rebirth. Right now, everything is so new and raw. So fresh that your mind cannot comprehend what you are feeling. They do come back. Your ex doesn't make the sun shine or the skies blue. You could swear she does, but you know life goes on. You got over your first, now it's time to get over your second. Practice what you preach. You got the right mentality to move on. Just make sure you aren't in denial and face each emotion. It will teach you more about yourself. Be strong!
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