PDPullmn612 Posted November 11, 2008 Posted November 11, 2008 Hey guys, Sorry for the somewhat lengthy post. Its been a while since I've been on here, but got a little question for you guys. On friday night, me and a couple of friends were drinking in his dorm. While we were there a few girls showed up. I knew these girls (this may be important to what happens later in the story). Later that night we all ended up going back to this one girl's place off campus (I'm in college if you haven't already figured it out). Me and this girl, Cait, ended up hooking up that night and I ended up spending the night there. We both had been drinking. Anyways, we ended up in her bed and hooked up more. No sex was involved at all. The next morning we cuddled a little then laid there and talked for about 2 hours about a whole bunch of things like what our childhoods were like, our family, friends, movies, and whatever else came up. At about 12:30 in the afternoon she drove me back to campus and we said bye (no goodbye kiss or anything...I was too worried that she wouldn't want one and feared being rejected). Since then I've texted her a few times just saying whats up and on Sunday night we ended up having a conversation for about 3 hours just texting back and forth. Oh and on saturday night I texted saying that we should hang out again sometime and she said yea. Since then we haven't talked too much, just a few minutes last night. The weird thing is that ever since that happened I've been thinking about her a lot. She seems like a really cool girl and would love to hang out with her more and see what happens. But my question is: Would you say that she is interested in me even a little? I don't want to try and attempt to do something if she may not even be interested. Please let me know its been bothering me for a few days lol. Thanks in advanced guys and if you need anymore details let me know and I'll post them. -Dave
BikerBeagle Posted November 11, 2008 Posted November 11, 2008 Why don't you just ask her to 'hang out' again and find out?
amaysngrace Posted November 11, 2008 Posted November 11, 2008 Oh she definitely likes you. She wouldn't have spent three hours texting you if she didn't. You guys seem to be off to a good start. You can talk openly and share your memories and you started off as friends first. That's awesome. Sometimes you just know when someone is good for you. I think you know it about her. That's why you can't stop thinking about her. She probably feels the same way too. Good vibes. Cool.
grace520 Posted November 11, 2008 Posted November 11, 2008 hello My name is miss grace weah,i saw your profile today and became intrested in you,i will also like to know you the more,and i want you to send a mail to my email address so i can give you my picture for you to know whom l am.Here is my email ([email protected]) believe we can move from here.I am waiting for your mail to my email address above.miss grace.(Remeber the distance or colour does not matter but love matters alot in life)
Author PDPullmn612 Posted November 11, 2008 Author Posted November 11, 2008 Ok thanks guys. My only concern was that we were both kinda drunk. But I was kinda focused more on what was happening after that night like us talking for 2 hours that morning and 3 hours the next night. Now I just gotta find a time and a place to hang out with her. College during the week can get kinda busy. Any suggestions on how I should approach the situation?
Author PDPullmn612 Posted November 11, 2008 Author Posted November 11, 2008 And also, she hasn't made an effort to text/talk me. I've always been the one to text/talk her. Does this mean anything? Maybe she is nervous to initiate conversation? Any thoughts on that? Thanks guys And sorry for the misspelling in the post title! :-)
amaysngrace Posted November 11, 2008 Posted November 11, 2008 No she's a good girl and wants you to treat her special so she won't call you. She'll patiently wait for you to come to her. She's not aggressive in the dating game. She has no need to be.
alphamale Posted November 11, 2008 Posted November 11, 2008 Would you say that she is interested in me even a little? I don't want to try and attempt to do something if she may not even be interested. can't really say Dave from the info presented....sounds like she maybe just wanted casual sex and you didn't follow through that drunken night. i could be wrong but it looks like you're in the dreaded "friends zone" now.
Author PDPullmn612 Posted November 11, 2008 Author Posted November 11, 2008 Yea, I'll try and hang out with her sometimes soon and see what happens. Any other ideas?
Author PDPullmn612 Posted November 13, 2008 Author Posted November 13, 2008 Hey guys, I'm gonna go a head and say that I think she is some what interested in me considering last night we hung out, stayed up until 3:30am talking, hooked up (no sex involved), and I ended up staying over at her place. And this time we were both sober lol
4dviceJunki3 Posted November 13, 2008 Posted November 13, 2008 Very good points from everyone! However, make sure you figure out for yourself whether you're interested in being with her or if it's just lust. A lot of times, guys will confuse the two and will THINK that they're interested in having a relationship with a girl when in fact, they just want to sleep with the girl. You have broken through the hardest part already, talking to the girl. Hell, you've gone past that and you've both hooked up. But don't forget, you guys met that night and hadn't seen each other in a while, and she decided to hook up with you while she was drunk so there may be a chance she'll do it again in the future so don't throw all your eggs in one basket. Text her and tell her that you've had a tough week in school and that this coming weekend you want to just hang out and chill to get away from all the work you've done in school. If you want a relationship with this girl, you've got to wipe the idea of sex from your mind and pursue it as a man. Go get her!
Author PDPullmn612 Posted November 13, 2008 Author Posted November 13, 2008 Thanks 4dviceJunki3. I already have wiped the idea of sex from the situation for right now. I'm a lot more interested in hanging out with her and getting to know her more. I'm just gonna take it step by step and see what happens. I generally know when I like a girl and when its just lust. I've felt both several times before. I definately feel that I'm actually interested I just like spending time with her in general and haven't even really thought about sex with her. Even for the first few hours of last night I didn't even make a move. It wasn't until later in the night that I actually made a move. And after I made the move we just kissed and cuddled. Even got a few butterflies from time to time. I didn't make any other advances on her to suggest leading to anything more. We leave for thanksgiving break soon and then once we get back from that we leave for winter break shortly after. Luckily for me, her home is in NJ like mine and she lives only 40 min away so even if things don't necessarily take before then at least maybe we can hang out over break a little. Anything else I should know? Thanks guys
Author PDPullmn612 Posted February 3, 2009 Author Posted February 3, 2009 i forgot that i posted this thread. Turns out she does like me considering we've been dating for almost 2 months now :-)
zenith Posted February 4, 2009 Posted February 4, 2009 Cool, dude. So I'm guessing you man'd up and asked her out?
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