Boyfriend’s coworker dilemma

[nena999]

My boyfriend and I have been together for 9 months and so far it has been rocky. I have been dealing with jealousy and insecurities my whole life =p My first serious boyfriend had broken my heart and I also have low self esteem about my body image. 10 months ago (a month before we met) He had gone out for drinks after work with coworkers, one of them is this girl name Vanessa. They stayed after to go to a club with some other people. He assured me that it was not romantic and he was single at the time so it wasn’t something that should bother me. He has even introduce me to all his coworkers including Vanessa at a work party. I thought she was gorgeous and had a gorgeous body =p My boyfriend is so amazing and handsome, sometimes I wonder why he chose to be with me when he can have so many better options. Work had transfered Vanessa to another building a couple of months ago and I haven’t heard about her since. Yesterday she texted him saying that she had went to the club they had gone out to the first time with friends and that made her think of him. She also said that when she comes back from her holidays they should go have lunch (during work hours with other people). It made me really upset because I didn’t know that she has his number. He told me that last Wednesday he ran into her while he was on his way home from work and they chatted less than one minute. He also said that he gave his number to her only so that she can call us when they go out so that I can have an opportunity to meet more people since I am new here in Spain. He said that he didn’t even bother to take her number because if she calls, she calls he doesn’t really care. Also he didn’t tell me about this run in with her because he said that he forgot because he didn’t give it importance. That text really bothered me. I trust my boyfriend because he showed me the text, but I haven’t been able to get it out of my mind. I am so scared she is trying to steal him from me. He assures me all night that nothing will happen, that he only loves me and he goes work and home only. If she ever ask to go out together, he would definitely take me along. As for lunch, will only happen with other people around too and not just one on one. I should feel better and I do but I just don’t know why she texted him =p I don’t want to think about this anymore because it will upset my boyfriend. Please give me some advice. I know this has been long =p but please help me. Thank you so much.

[casanovacorner]

Don't stress it. She wants him because he doesn't care. I'm not sure if you're into women at all, but if you are, get her number out of his phone and set up a 3some if you can. Surprise him. He won't cheat if he knows he doesn't have to. Believe me. My girl knows what types of women I'm attracted to, and she brings me home some of the most beautiful women from the club almost every weekend.

 

I don't have to cheat and never will. Sometimes I don't even want her to bring anyone home, like this past weekend. Maybe you should try buying a bunch of sexy clothes and shoes and creating fantasy nights for him. Don't worry about the other woman. He won't leave you for her, even if he does have sex with her. You can definitely screw with his head if you act like you don't care if he talks to her. As a guy, I'd wonder why you were ok with it. I'd also wonder if you were doing the same thing or had plans on doing the same thing. Especially if its not a conversation we have ever had.