V.Vixen Posted November 10, 2008 Posted November 10, 2008 It's not that I am always lonely, I just really want that someone to share my time and life with too. I find that it has been very hard to find someone to be a boyfriend, who I really really like. I am just over being single. Why is it so hard to find a decent guy who wants me for me? This is a vent, but also I want to see who understands where I am coming from. Should I start settling or what? Most of my friends have SOs, so I am often left to my own devices. This has been fine for me for a long time, but I am just tired of the search.
Brimstone_Angel Posted November 10, 2008 Posted November 10, 2008 I too tire of the search. The endless putting my profile on dating sites and getting no responses. Dating is for those who can stomach it. I am more of a relationship guy and being 38 and getting no younger, I don't want to have to run around trying to deal with a woman who isn't working for the long term. I think ever since I was 16 or so. I've always known I wanted to be married, have 2 or 3 kids, and be the best husband I could be. From even before I understood what was romance, I have prepared myself. I remember in my youth, for a young girl I was interested in I plucked some rose petals off of a few roses and put them on her bed and I put a CD in with Bon Jov's "Bed of Roses" and let it played on that song until she came home. It did not get me the girl, but all through high school she remembered that I did that. I think this is one of the reasons why I come here. Looking for someone who knows what they want. Who understands love and how it works. Someone who thinks its long past their being alone or winding up with another person not ready for the commitment. I know completely how you feel Vixen. And like I've said before. You are a very lovely woman on the outside and you sound live a very beautiful woman on the inside. If I could, I would sweep you off your feet and see if I could give you what you are looking for. Vix... Stay strong. The right man for you will come. We have to believe that until it comes true or the day we die. Never lose hope.
Ponderer Posted November 10, 2008 Posted November 10, 2008 im the same way too ive been single my whole life (im only 18), and i didnt really care up until 6 months ago or so now everyone else has a SO and im stuck by myself im one of the few guys who wants to have someone to just go out and do stuff with, and not just get into bed i want an actual relationship i thought girls were looking for that all over the place but in all reality, girls dont like nice guys they want dick heads that just want in their pants, which i am not like that i always thought it would be easy to find a girl since i was a nice guy, but its the complete opposite. its very annoying
Vertex Posted November 10, 2008 Posted November 10, 2008 I know how you feel... but settling for something you know you don't want is not going to help in the long run.
Brimstone_Angel Posted November 10, 2008 Posted November 10, 2008 One of the ways to best test if a person is relationship material... Don't give out the nookie. I have significantly eliminated a lot of losers by telling them I am working on my second virginhood and that I am not looking to have sex again until I am married. I want that gift reserved for the woman who has earned it.
cherrybaby Posted November 10, 2008 Posted November 10, 2008 I am in that boat too. I keep dating men who lead me on for months and then pull the "I'm just not ready", which to me is man speak for, "I'm just not that into you." I would say the best way to cope with being single is to really force yourself to get out there and meet new people, no matter what. Find events that interest you, or join meet up groups online and hang out with new people. fill you time with hobbies and events to go to, and I know someone will find you. Don't give up! Men don't just find you in your house and knock on your door, you really have to be active at meeting new people. I guess you just have to understand who is not good for you and who is. That's a skill that I have yet to master, but with each new date, I learn more and more. Good luck!
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