childrenswriter Posted November 10, 2008 Posted November 10, 2008 Hey all - I was just wondering what a guy says to let a girl know they like/interested in them. I guess sometimes I get confused when a guy really likes you as opposed to them just wanting sex. I'm in a situation right now that I don't really want to think about because it sometimes get me down when a guy just wants me for sex and not the other way around. The guy said he likes me and is hot for me which I guess is a little bit of both. I just don't know what his true intentions are yet. He says he is shy around me because he doesn't want to scare me off but I don't know whether to believe him or not. Sometimes he seems to care and other times not so much. I'm trying to deny my own feelings by being mad at him so I want get hurt too badly. A little help with this situation would be much appreciated. Thanks!
Brimstone_Angel Posted November 10, 2008 Posted November 10, 2008 You really want to know if he is a keeper? Say your waiting until your married. And stick to it.
PrincessPeach Posted November 10, 2008 Posted November 10, 2008 How often do the two of you get out and do things together on days that don't end up with you having sex? You shouldn't have to or need to have sex every time you see each other. If he wants to spend time with you and getting to know you without wanting sex every single time then I would say he is interested in you and not just the sex. If you two aren't going out doing things together, I'd suggest you start doing so. Suggest something for the two of you to do. If he seems willing and goes along, he probably cares about you and will continue to go and do things with you in the future.
Adamagnet Posted November 10, 2008 Posted November 10, 2008 It's not best to focus on what is said, as words make up only a small fraction of communication. If I'm after a woman for a relationship, I will be offering to do things above and beyond night time dinner/drink dates. Also, I usually maintain contact more frequently and tend to chit chat rather than just getting to the point.
refurb Posted November 10, 2008 Posted November 10, 2008 Here is some news for you, sometimes guys will say stuff, mean it, but still only be in it for the sex. I've talked to friends who have done it and I've done it. I got back together with my ex after a year long break and I really felt I was falling for her again. We had sex and I soon realized the only think I really missed was the sex. It wasn't malicious at all. The lesson? Don't judge a guy by his words, but by his action over time. A guy who genuinely likes hanging out with you, with no sex, over a period of time, probably genuinely likes you as a person. RF
alphamale Posted November 10, 2008 Posted November 10, 2008 What does a guy say to let a girl know they like them?! "would you like to go out sometime?"
jayOG Posted November 11, 2008 Posted November 11, 2008 This is going to sound nuts!!! If he really likes you he will want to have sex with you. If he doesn't he won't. Ok so hear me out... I get bored easily and enjoy seducing women as a past time. I met this girl and figured why not make her my next target. We go out on a few dates and everything is working out perfectly. She pulls a crazy stunt on me and catches me completely off guard. She suggest that we can have sex but she doesn't want a relationship. I immediately lost interest and opted not to pursue her. For very confident guys it is about conquest. (there are reasons why she did this, but they are not relevant to my point). On the other hand a girl I liked very much knew my intentions and knew how to handle me. If she told me to come over and have sex with her right now I would be there in a heartbeat. In this case it wasn't about conquest, I genuinely liked her and would have loved to have sex with her. This really only applies to confident guys who just want have sex with a girl and ditch em. It's reverse psychology... Give them exactly what they want and they won't want it, but if their intentions are true they will want it.
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