Alex_M Posted November 9, 2008 Posted November 9, 2008 This is the same story that I posted about a couple of days ago. I have a question. Is it really possible to love someone, go away for the weekend and comeback thinking that your feelings have changed? She would talk about marriage and babies and then a few weeks after going to university she's become distant. Also, she wants to be friends after 2 years of being together (we broke up a month ago), but I only told her I was okay with everything yesterday but she has not contacted me really at all during the whole month we've been apart. A few messages on MSN and a few texts. Pretty different from lying together in bed every night talking. It's obviously soon after I told her I was okay with everything so i'll wait a week or so, to see what's going on. If she doesn't really feel anything for me and is using the friendship to soften the blow what should I do? Tell her how I feel and end it? Get angry and end it? She tells me she wants to be friends but she's out with her friends all the time. I'm in a sad state right now but i'm a strong willed person, and once i figure out what's going on, i'm not going to be playing the fool.
Poiter Posted November 9, 2008 Posted November 9, 2008 Don't be her friend at all. I'm in a similar situation, except mine had planned to run off with a new guy while she was trying to give a straight explanation for breaking up. Don't be her friend one damn bit. She doesn't care about you, she doesn't care about your heartache she just wants you there to satisfy herself emotionally. You're probably thinking "she's not a bitch, she wouldn't do this intentionally". And you're right, she's not. It's a natural thing some girls do. My ex does the same thing. Even after I told her I don't want ot hear from her ever again unless she's in serious trouble and has no-one else to call. And so far I've had 2 days where she's contacted me on Messenger when SHE felt like it. On Friday she tried making small talk (eventually i ignored it). Then on Saturday she sent another message to which I didn't reply. It's funny, while she was in hospital she was promising todo something special for me to thank me for being there when she was seriously ill (since her new man isn't even in the same state) but it's incredible how quickly she has forgotten that a week later. Like I said. Don't be there as a friend. It's bad enough she'll only seek your friendship when SHE needs it. Dunno about you, but my friends talk to me all the time and don't ditch me for other friends. So what the heck is she going to provide you that another friend can't. I know you want to win her back, despite all my suffering the past month, I'd probably still take mine back too! But SHE has to want to come back. If there is any feeling left in her towards you, not being there is going to make her realise those feelings.
EmperorR Posted November 9, 2008 Posted November 9, 2008 This is the same story that I posted about a couple of days ago. I have a question. Is it really possible to love someone, go away for the weekend and comeback thinking that your feelings have changed? She would talk about marriage and babies and then a few weeks after going to university she's become distant. Also, she wants to be friends after 2 years of being together (we broke up a month ago), but I only told her I was okay with everything yesterday but she has not contacted me really at all during the whole month we've been apart. A few messages on MSN and a few texts. Pretty different from lying together in bed every night talking. It's obviously soon after I told her I was okay with everything so i'll wait a week or so, to see what's going on. If she doesn't really feel anything for me and is using the friendship to soften the blow what should I do? Tell her how I feel and end it? Get angry and end it? She tells me she wants to be friends but she's out with her friends all the time. I'm in a sad state right now but i'm a strong willed person, and once i figure out what's going on, i'm not going to be playing the fool. maybe she cheated on you that weekend away, my ex went away ofr a week, told me the same crap you went through, then later I foudn out she cheated on me during that week
EmperorR Posted November 9, 2008 Posted November 9, 2008 Don't be her friend at all. I'm in a similar situation, except mine had planned to run off with a new guy while she was trying to give a straight explanation for breaking up. Don't be her friend one damn bit. She doesn't care about you, she doesn't care about your heartache she just wants you there to satisfy herself emotionally. You're probably thinking "she's not a bitch, she wouldn't do this intentionally". And you're right, she's not. It's a natural thing some girls do. My ex does the same thing. Even after I told her I don't want ot hear from her ever again unless she's in serious trouble and has no-one else to call. And so far I've had 2 days where she's contacted me on Messenger when SHE felt like it. On Friday she tried making small talk (eventually i ignored it). Then on Saturday she sent another message to which I didn't reply. It's funny, while she was in hospital she was promising todo something special for me to thank me for being there when she was seriously ill (since her new man isn't even in the same state) but it's incredible how quickly she has forgotten that a week later. Like I said. Don't be there as a friend. It's bad enough she'll only seek your friendship when SHE needs it. Dunno about you, but my friends talk to me all the time and don't ditch me for other friends. So what the heck is she going to provide you that another friend can't. I know you want to win her back, despite all my suffering the past month, I'd probably still take mine back too! But SHE has to want to come back. If there is any feeling left in her towards you, not being there is going to make her realise those feelings. I agree, lol at when I was friends with my ex for the "two" weeks when i was dumb and blinded, I couldn't see her, anytime I called her she was busy, that's not what freinds are, how an I be your friend but not see you, that whole friend's crap is garbage.
Author Alex_M Posted November 9, 2008 Author Posted November 9, 2008 Thank you for your input. She has showed interest in going out again, this will be her last chance to show that she does want to be a friend.
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