datura_noir Posted November 19, 2008 Posted November 19, 2008 It is not only possible, but you may end up with an even better marriage-this is not the norm, I know. But look at this person you have shared a life with-really look-and discover the value of that person that keeps you around. And how the two of you are together. The dynamics of you as a couple may be better than you could have dreamed. I am new here, and a BS from nearly 2 years ago. We are a work in progress.
Steve L Posted November 19, 2008 Posted November 19, 2008 No, not really. They are a sham built on psychological folly. One partner ends up eating sh#t and the other gets away with murder. The offended never forgets, never trusts and is never truly happy again. The offended often begins to leave his/her options open as well. Ever heard of a revenge affair. You have cheapened your vows for both of you now and they mean very little. Not only will he feel like you went to a party that he did not get invited to, he will feel the need to validate his sexuality, and with a man, this is a very strong drive. A short story a guy told me about at work about his grandparents. His grandfather had an affair in japan in ww2. The couple got into an argument at thanksgiving in the early 90's and she was still throwin that in his face! 50 years later and it was wartime. Give it up, he deserves better.
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