monkey00 Posted November 9, 2008 Posted November 9, 2008 Anyway I've met this girl recently and I've gone on a few dates with her so far. Physically she's not what I usually go for and not my type at all. Personality wise there is some chemistry. However, what I really like about her is she's the patient type. She's not a pushover, cold, playing any games, desperate, clingy or anything...she's well balanced. Usually I'm also the one to call her and she usually picks up. And the fact that I'm living my life and going out with my friends without having to feel pressured of calling her to set up a date and I do it when I feel like it, I keep it consistent though yet casual. Tonight I invited her to an outing with my friends and she was with her friends so she brought them along. Due to some circumstances with her friends they had to leave early, she didn't want to but she had to because of her friends. We didn't really say bye to each other. Shortly after she left, she texted me to call her next week. Though honestly, so far I haven't kissed her, and strangely she seems okay and mature about it. Though the thing I really don't understand about myself is why I continuously invite her to outings with my friends. I practically never do that with girls unless we're in a serious relationship. I admit I like her company, but I wonder if that's all there is to it?
alphamale Posted November 9, 2008 Posted November 9, 2008 . Physically she's not what I usually go for and not my type at all. there is your answer in 14 words
pandagirl Posted November 9, 2008 Posted November 9, 2008 there is your answer in 14 words He may not be feeling lusty towards her, but that is OK, because there is obviously something about her that is keeping him interested/intrigued. Every relationship develops differently, and this could just be a slow starting one. It's too soon to tell whether or not she a keeper. Just keep on hanging out with her and have fun! It sounds like you really like her and respect her, regardless of what romantic interest there is. That, in itself, is hard to find.
Portage Posted November 9, 2008 Posted November 9, 2008 Can you see the possibility of physical chemistry? When you think of kissing her what are your first thoughts?
Author monkey00 Posted November 9, 2008 Author Posted November 9, 2008 He may not be feeling lusty towards her, but that is OK, because there is obviously something about her that is keeping him interested/intrigued. Every relationship develops differently, and this could just be a slow starting one. It's too soon to tell whether or not she a keeper. Just keep on hanging out with her and have fun! It sounds like you really like her and respect her, regardless of what romantic interest there is. That, in itself, is hard to find. That's probably what I'm going to be doing. I still haven't decided if I like her or not..honestly. I find that her maturity level and the fact that she's so well balanced as a person blow me away sometimes. It just feels really natural being around her. Can you see the possibility of physical chemistry? When you think of kissing her what are your first thoughts? The thought of kissing her isn't so bad. But if I really had to nail it down, I'd say what's really holding me back is the physical aspect. It's a challenge for me on whether or not I can overlook that and see it as one of her finer qualities.
Chinook Posted November 9, 2008 Posted November 9, 2008 Um, something you don't seem to have thought too much about is why she's not overly physical with you either. It seems to me that you guys are on the verge of friend-zoning each other, which is fine... but well, maybe it's better to make a decision soon as to where things are. Just so no one gets their feelings hurt if one of you decide that someone else is more interesting.
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