harimad Posted November 9, 2008 Posted November 9, 2008 So, Thursday i went on a wonderful fourth date with this guy that i really like. I don't date much and this is the first time since i broke up with my longtime ex (two years ago) that i really, actually like somebody. It seemed like we really connected, and he seemed really into me (we didn't have sex but made out a lot). I was feeling pretty blissful on the way home. But it was the first time we didn't discuss seeing each other again. Anyway, I called him today and left a short voicemail saying i had a nice time, hope to hear from him, etc. No call back, no text, nothing. I'm probably making too much of this ... i know he had plans today so maybe he was busy and he'll call me tomorrow. But i guess the combination of not having made even vague plans on Thursday PLUS not getting any response today is wigging me out. I just really don't know what to think. I mean, if he doesn't call me tomorrow... then what?
kizik Posted November 9, 2008 Posted November 9, 2008 ...if he doesn't call me tomorrow... then what? Then you just continue living your life. It sounds like you've made it clear to him that you'd like to see him again. Now, back off. Maybe he's busy, maybe he's not into you. My guess is that you'll hear from him when he gets a chance. But don't call or text him again. If you never hear back - on to the next one. Josh
Meet 4 Coffee Posted November 9, 2008 Posted November 9, 2008 At this early stage, I would not be calling him, at least initiating calls at all. only return calls, and not every single call. You might have already scared him off, sorry. So, Thursday i went on a wonderful fourth date with this guy that i really like. I don't date much and this is the first time since i broke up with my longtime ex (two years ago) that i really, actually like somebody. It seemed like we really connected, and he seemed really into me (we didn't have sex but made out a lot). I was feeling pretty blissful on the way home. But it was the first time we didn't discuss seeing each other again. Anyway, I called him today and left a short voicemail saying i had a nice time, hope to hear from him, etc. No call back, no text, nothing. I'm probably making too much of this ... i know he had plans today so maybe he was busy and he'll call me tomorrow. But i guess the combination of not having made even vague plans on Thursday PLUS not getting any response today is wigging me out. I just really don't know what to think. I mean, if he doesn't call me tomorrow... then what?
marlynshopgrl Posted November 9, 2008 Posted November 9, 2008 Unfortunately men are not like us (LOL) and when they get into something they don't seem to remember anything else. You've already communicated with him (I wish you hadn't, but never the less) so now the ball is in his court. Remember you are in the midst of getting to know each other, and he may also be getting to know other people (which you just never know), you are going to need to play it a little smart. He knows you like him, you left him a message thanking him for the date and stating that you had a nice time, now please STOP. If you are the one, he will call. I know what I am saying is hard, but keep yourself busy. Go to the gym, out with GF, anything but don't call him again. The ball is in his court. Im sure you are a wonderful catch, NOW ACT LIKE IT
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