done giving Posted November 9, 2008 Posted November 9, 2008 So this is my second post and I just need some help from some of you going through this. I don't know what to do with myself, all I do is sit and think about my soon to be ex husband being out and it is driving me crazy. we have barely been apart a month so of course I am not in any way ready to go out and find "friends" as he calls them. I don't have girlfriends to talk with or hang out with, it's just me, myself, and I. I live way out in the country so am sorta stuck that way with no neighbors for now, and staying busy in the house just does not seem to work. any suggestions on how to get these thoughts to stop and help me from going crazy. I know there is whole process we have to go through (this is not my first divorce) but it seems to be the hardest. any advice would be appreciated! thanks for taking the time to read.
marlynshopgrl Posted November 9, 2008 Posted November 9, 2008 I'm sure this is a horrible time, heck I live in the city people all around me and tonight i feel isolated and lonely. Ive never lived in the country but Im sure there are ways to make friends, even if it means joining a internet personals, like match.com or yahoo.com, something to interact with people. If the computer is the only way to the outside world, then doing this, maybe helping people online with their issues can keep your mind off your issues. How about a dog? Or cat, there are so many unwanted pets in the shelters (especially pit bulls, sorry just had to). Heaven knows my dog keeps my sane, thank God for her she is truly a savior. I hope I have helped just a little Have a peaceful nite my new friend.
confused71 Posted November 9, 2008 Posted November 9, 2008 I can feel exactly what your going through.Me and my wife moved from the uk to canada nearly 2 years ago.A couple of months ago she anounced she wanted a divorce.I then found out a few weeks later that she had been cheating on me when she answered the phone in the car to the OM right in front of me without trying to hide it.Anyway I am going to have to move out so I will be in a basement suite on my own ,in a fairly new country with no friends or family to talk too (all the people i know out here are through the wifes work) I am gradually going mad .I still love my wife and all I can think of is her with the OM. Hope you find a way to take your mind off things.Take care.
PWSX3 Posted November 9, 2008 Posted November 9, 2008 Small church groups, going to the gym, are a couple places. It's getting a little cooler out but just going for a walk, getting some fresh air helped me at the beginning. You aren't looking for a relationship you are just looking for support.
Author done giving Posted November 9, 2008 Author Posted November 9, 2008 Good morning and thank you for the suggestions and sharing some of your own experiences. I have a dog, she has been the best thing in my life, I got her as a puppy when I had a heart attack 3 years ago and she has gotten me through so much and now she is what keeps me sane(most of the time), having my dog makes it hard for me to get out because she has never ever been left alone, myself or my soon to be ex has always been with her or she goes along. (guess I gotta figure that one out now) I did try to go onto a couple of sites and sign up just looking for friends so I could talk to online with and quickly got out of it because all I got were people wanting to talk in ways I have no interest in (I am sure you all know what I am talking about), so I found this site while searching for divorce help and with a lot of people going through the same things I am hoping it makes things somewhat easier to get through.
imagine Posted November 9, 2008 Posted November 9, 2008 I am so sorry that you are here. First port of call is to look after yourself. You are partially doing this already just by venting. Next, make sure that you are getting sufficient exercise. Fix the depression medically if you have to. Remember, needy, depressed, moping = unattractive. Confident, smiling, positive about future = attractive. Get out there and knock 'em dead you goddess! PS. Don't be surprised if he doesn't try to crawl back. Be ready.
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