done giving Posted November 8, 2008 Posted November 8, 2008 I am new here and this is my first post, so sorry in advance for being confusing. My husband and I are separated(about a month) and he has decided to start the divorce. Being we have had a lot of problems for several years I agreed with him. We decided we could remain friends (or so I thought, as long as it is on his terms it is alright.) His belongings are still in my place. he started moving them out and decided he could not do it in one day, going to come back in a day or two to get the rest, now he is going to wait another month, now take in consideration that all the big stuff is sitting in the middle of my rooms and I am unable to move these things on my own. When I called and talked to him about coming here tonight to get it all organized in one room he agreed and said he would call back, well he did not and is not home, I am sure he is out with new "friend". I don't know what bothers me more, the fact that there is a new friends (of course that just rips through me) or the fact that once again he lied and I am expected to sit and wait till he is ready. I am beside myself, I am 39, bi-polar and had a heart attack 3 years ago and right now all I do is sit and cry and feel like at any given moment I am just going to go nuts (probably already there,lol). So this is some of my story, I know there is always 2 sides to each one but there is not any one in my life that I talk to and thought this would be a good place to start being other people are in similar situations. thanks for listening.
Lady Bird Posted November 9, 2008 Posted November 9, 2008 Hi Done Giving, I've read both of your posts and sorry to hear that you are in such confusion mixed with the pain. It sounds as if you are kinda stuck in a situation without family or friends and that has to be extremely hard. Hang in there and vent/write/read/share here at LS, it can be wonderful tool. About his stuff being in the middle of your rooms and him lying about coming to get them. I would call him, if he doesn't answer leave a message, give him a specific date and time to come get them. Also let him know that if it's not picked up by then it will be carried off and donated to charity. Stop playing by his rules. Since this isn't your first divorce I'm sure you know that the healing takes time and you'll go through an array of emotions but slowly over time it gets better. ((hugs)) to you!!
Author done giving Posted November 9, 2008 Author Posted November 9, 2008 Thank you for your kind words. He claims to come next month to get his belongings, and I can deal with that, what really gets under my skin is that for 11 years I have made things as easy for him as possible (he has a lot of baggage that I won't even get into) and he won't take a couple hours out of his new life to help straighten things up here for me when he knows the problems I am facing. Reading things on here from other people does help and this is the first online forum I have decided to get involved with and I am sure it is going to help when I just need to vent. thank you again.
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