applepie1989 Posted November 8, 2008 Posted November 8, 2008 Ok I don’t know which category this goes in because it’s probably something very stupid and unordinary. Please read through all of this. I met my gf like 8 months ago and I fell madly in love with her. I live in England and she was on holiday and lives in America. It really didn’t matter distance wasn’t going to ruin it for us and we stayed in contact. We talked everyday over webcam, msn, phone even over an online video game. She was perfect we had same interests, she was absolutely gorgeous and she always kept telling me how much she loved me, we couldn’t get enough of each other. Anyway just a few weeks ago I accused her of lying because her phone and webcam would turn off at the same time which is unlikely but after she told me I should trust I did and forgot about it. Anyway her laptop broke about a week ago so we can only call each other for now. 3 days ago she called me and said her ex had walked back in her life and that we should just be friends, I cried on the phone for an hour and I cried myself to sleep =( . I woke up too an email saying we can’t ever talk again. Shortly after reading the email she said called saying she was sorry regrets it all and wants me back. Naturally I took her back, this is the women of my dreams and I can forgive. Here comes the main problem and it’s a big one. She called me today and told me she had been lying to me and she has had a bf for 3 years and been living with him, he'd found out and started monitoring her laptop messages hence the broken laptop story, I am literally devastated and feel completely dead inside. We had made so many plans. She said she meant everything when she said she loved me. She said she is going to move back in with her parents after a month and if I let her, we can start anew. I said yes. Here’s my predicament, I have to sit here while my gf/ex is with another man for a month b4 she moves out and can finally ditch him, she needs him to move her stuff there is no other way. Can I trust her when she says this, I want too and she sounded like she meant it on the phone?[/FONT I know I’m going to be called an idiot and I know lots of u are going to give me the one sentence answer “dump her” “move on” but please look at it through my point of view. I’m not great looking and this is the first chance i have had at such a great girl, I know she loves me very much. Please give me some advice I don’t want to just abandon hope when I know there is still some there.
whichwayisup Posted November 8, 2008 Posted November 8, 2008 It's long distance and you have no way of really knowing if she is telling the truth as there's no way to back up what she is saying..Even if it's true, does she plan on moving or you moving to her? Another thing, you really don't know her, except you know she lies..
Author applepie1989 Posted November 8, 2008 Author Posted November 8, 2008 we already made loads of plans about visits and who is moving and when, i asked if she was serious on the fone today as she was telling me and she said she was. why would she lie? she lied before because she didnt want too lose me, now whether she lies or tells the truth were still gonna be away from each other for a month, theres no benefit too her making me wait if she knows shes not gonna turn up. wat do ya think
CarrieT Posted November 8, 2008 Posted November 8, 2008 The best advice is that which you don't want; if she cheated on her current BF to be with you, then she will ultimately cheat on you as well. People who lie do not stop lying and you will never be able to trust her, despite your love for her. Learn early (despite the pain) and move on.
onemorecupofcoffee Posted December 2, 2008 Posted December 2, 2008 If you guys are really going to start fresh I say give her a chance. In your head you should just think "okay, we'll start from scratch in a month," once she's at her parent's. From there, if she is serious, she won't contact her ex anymore and hopefully you can forgive her previous lies and let them stay in the past.
Tarantula Posted December 7, 2008 Posted December 7, 2008 She seems to be so messed up that she will mess your life also UP once you let her really in if ever she comes in for real .Yes. God bless!
Habibti Posted January 19, 2009 Posted January 19, 2009 How can you trust her? You CAN'T. You never will be able too. People make mistakes; yes. But this girl is going to be drama central and problem after problem. Don't settle for a love that's always breaking your heart and that's what's going to happen. If she had no problem lying to you left and right before- believe me- she's definately not going to have a problem when she realises not only can she do it..but you'll put up with it. It will hurt like hell, but she is NOT your dream girl. Unless your dream girl is a lying manipulator..I don't know..is your dream girl a lying manipulator? I'd hope not.
Citizen Erased Posted January 19, 2009 Posted January 19, 2009 She sound like she meant it? Didn't she always? Forget her. The first thing out of her mouth when she met you was that she had a boyfriend. She has lied to you the entire time you have known her, forget it. Stop burying your head in the sand and see this for what it really is.
Island Girl Posted January 19, 2009 Posted January 19, 2009 last time he was here on this thread looks like Nov 8th. Wonder what happened...?
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