is she worth trusting?

[luther0333]

hi all.....here's the story. about 4 plus years ago, i started dating someone and a month into our relationship i got deployed in the military. during the deployment she cheated on me twice, once intentionally and the other she had gotten drunk and was raped. ultimately i only consider the one incident without the drinking but even still that reflects her judgement or at least her past judgement. during our relationship we had also experienced an abortion which i was against but at the time she wanted to do it because her parents would kill her or disown her and i didnt want to have her bringing a baby into the world that she didnt want so i went along with it....BIG MISTAKE ON MY PART...so where i stand now is she isnt cheating on me from what i know and she wants to get married. we have been through two deployments(2 years apart), an abortion, and a couple separations but we still find our way back to eachother.

 

recently, she has told me that she's interested in threesomes and im starting to get concerned toward if she is really serious about me. i dont want to marry someone that wants to bring others in the bedroom so im assuming the best course of action is to try to get it out of her system and see if it solves something since she's the type to have to hit a brick wall to understand the reprocussions. so down to my question....should i trust her to be faithful to me? i want to know that when we're married i wont find some random people shoving rabbits up their butts because she was curious about it. thank you for your time.

[whichwayisup]

No, she isn't. You want a loving, faithful one on one relationship and it seems that she is into MORE than that. Wants threesomes and have cheated on you. And the rape? I'm not judging, but did she press charges against the guy?

 

Listen to your gut - Even if you think you love her, this girl WILL hurt you as it seems she isn't capable of being mongomous.

[aqueousfall]

i agree, i believe you'll just end up getting hurt.