Jenny123 Posted November 8, 2008 Posted November 8, 2008 Can't say I haven't been here before- unfortunately been here a few times:( I lived in Dubai, working as an airhostess. Met Matt this time last year, continued the friendship via facebook. He returned to Dubai, March this year, we became a couple. He's in the forces. I left Dubai to return to the U.K, he put his year's resignation in his job to be with me. He came to my country after six month's apart, stayed for five days- hated the place and decided in the last two days, we were too different. I put on half a stone and went from fun loving party gal to serious work obcessed bore, I feel anyway. We have broke up 5 weeks now, he has never contacted me once. ound that strange.. Had blocked him on Facebook prior and looked him up 4 weeks later=in a relationship!!! After telling me he didn't want to be in a relationship. I couldn't leave it at that, sent him a message like a freak that I wasn't impressed, and was she in the sidelines.I wrote on facebook, ready 2 date m Nice, over Mr Liar. He saw that. i contacted him only a few times via sms during the breakup- no reply. He called me back told me not 2 contact him again, i'm immature and to move on. I love the way Men, can move on so easily from one one woman to the next. I know not all guys are rat-bags but i seem 2 get them. He's playing happy couples for how long (prob within the week of breaking up!) and I have the mother of all breakdowns, quit my job- fantasise on different ways of killing myself. I didn't know him long but I felt he was the love of my life- we were planning our future. When will I ever have my happy ending? Depressing I know to read. Feel a bit stronger five weeks on- Going bk 2 flying, moving country-(AGAIN)! but i'm still hollow and empty inside. I hope what goes around, comes around is true.
Author Jenny123 Posted November 8, 2008 Author Posted November 8, 2008 Can't say I haven't been here before- unfortunately been here a few times:( I lived in Dubai, working as an airhostess. Met Matt this time last year, continued the friendship via facebook. He returned to Dubai, March this year, we became a couple. He's in the forces. I left Dubai to return to the U.K, he put his year's resignation in his job to be with me. He came to my country after six month's apart, stayed for five days- hated the place and decided in the last two days, we were too different. I put on half a stone and went from fun loving party gal to serious work obcessed bore, I feel anyway. We have broke up 5 weeks now, he has never contacted me once. found that strange.. Had blocked him on Facebook prior and looked him up 4 weeks later=in a relationship!!! she looks good with him 2! After telling me he didn't want to be in a relationship. I couldn't leave it at that, sent him a message like a freak that I wasn't impressed, and was she in the sidelines.I wrote on facebook, ready 2 date m Nice, over Mr Liar. He saw that. i contacted him only a few times via sms during the breakup- no reply. He called me back told me not 2 contact him again, i'm immature and to move on. I love the way Men, can move on so easily from one one woman to the next. I know not all guys are rat-bags but i seem 2 get them. He's playing happy couples for how long (prob within the week of breaking up!) and I have the mother of all breakdowns, quit my job- fantasise on different ways of killing myself. I didn't know him long but I felt he was the love of my life- we were planning our future. When will I ever have my happy ending? Depressing I know to read. Feel a bit stronger five weeks on- Going bk 2 flying, moving country-(AGAIN)! but i'm still hollow and empty inside.I have lost half a stone in weight (heartbreak diet)! I hope what goes around, comes around is true. Fantasies of me ending up the cat woman is lessening. I still blame myself if I had wore sexy undies, made more effort, I wouldn't have lost him. He remains on the pedestal. I know everything happens 4 a reason but Idon't mess people about so when is it my turn. p.s. This website and alot of tv a tonic to the soul.. I am alone in a crowded room.
lofi_tokyo Posted November 8, 2008 Posted November 8, 2008 Heya Jenny, Just so you know, you're not the only person who has gone through this. I was in a LDR where my boyfriend left me for another woman. Its incredibly painful. I'm really really sorry he did that to you. I think the first steps to kind of getting out of the crippling pain is to kind of like... look at the good in the world. Thats hard to do, I know, but it will help tons. Just find a nice thing to appreciate in each day. It won't heal you, but it will get you out of the dark hole you've fallen into. Once you're out of that, it will get a ton easier to heal.
Author Jenny123 Posted November 8, 2008 Author Posted November 8, 2008 Thanks:) It really helps, seeing other people go through this as well. Strangers are friends we havent met yet:)
lofi_tokyo Posted November 8, 2008 Posted November 8, 2008 Yeah, its really nice having people to relate to here, it makes me feel less alone. If you ever need someone to talk to, I'm here for you! I don't know how much I'll be able to help though, because even though youre going through a rough patch, you sound a lot better put together than I am ;p. I get pretty emotional sometimes!
Author Jenny123 Posted November 8, 2008 Author Posted November 8, 2008 I'm sitting in on a Saturday nite, watching chick flicks and listening to music-it helps! I know girls put guy's on pedestals, and we put ourselves down. i'm focusing on wot I like about myself and what i give to a relationship. Going out for power walks perks me up- even though I think i look sad! It also helps watching hot guy's ( Daniel Craig!), everything happens for a reason. Get it off ur chest:)
EmperorR Posted November 8, 2008 Posted November 8, 2008 C I love the way Men, can move on so easily from one one woman to the next. I know not all guys are rat-bags but i seem 2 get them. Women aren't any better
Author Jenny123 Posted November 9, 2008 Author Posted November 9, 2008 have to say try r u interested on facebook- ego boost with no ties!
angiehoops2232 Posted November 10, 2008 Posted November 10, 2008 I have been in an 8 year relatioship with anothe female. We have endured her cominig otu to her faimily, the death of two mo my brothers and recently a 2 year bout with my breast cancer. We finally built our dream home, and only recently as she told me she wants out and cannot do this relationship. Just as our lives are health are free, families love each other, I am am sitting here in our house we built together alone and confused. We tried 3 weeks of counciling and and she just knew i was not going to work to work She says she loves me, but is not happy. I have no family and her family was all that i knew. The holidays are coming up and i am lost and sad. I cannot staop crying and miss her terriblly. All of of our finances are tied up together and I just can't bear to take the next step. Wehn does this pain end? Will I be able to move on and be smile again. She was the light of my lfe, and i just cant grasp that is is over...is hyptonostism an option? I do not want to lose the house we built as shehas moved out and i am here. We are both succeessful people, but cannotaffored to buy each other out. I do not want to lose this house as it is all that I have as I put my 50K from my last sell into this house. Our home has dropped 100K in the market. We run with the same group of friends, and i just do not seem to have the same strength she had. I feel abandoned and alone. I do not have family as her family was my own. I feel such despair and sadness that it overwhelms me. Our next step is to talk logistics of the propertie and what we own. I cannot go backwards. I am 42 and poured all of my equity from my last house into to this one. Her did is our lender. How do I move one from this grief and despair? I still love her so much.
Recommended Posts