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I'm 37 and had a late start in life. Finished College in 8 years going part-time and followed my dream job in Film making no money. Now, I'm in a good career, have money to my name and live on my own. Problem is I always thought I was ready to get married and have been pushing the issue with my GF of 2 1/2 years. Basically had my life planned out...want a wife, kids, etc. I've been living the playboy life, traveling, eating at good restaurants all the time, etc. She's helped me control that lifestyle and I thank her for it. She's not ready to get married and is feeling pressured by me because that's what I thought I wanted.

 

After our latest blowout, I realize that yes, EMOTIONALLY I'm ready to make a committment, but FINANCIALLY I want to wait. I never realized it until now about where I'd get the money from to support a family, house, etc. I'm an a$$ for pushing it and it's hurt our relationship, as she's pulled away as the more I pushed the issue to move in, get engaged, etc. Now that I've told her, she doesn't believe me that I am not ready. She thinks I'm just saying it to please her. How do I convince her that I want to wait? I sent her favorite flowers to her today with a "sorry" card saying that I'd like us to make a Fresh Start. Hopefully I'll hear from her. The agony of waiting to hear is killing me. What should I say when she calls?

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show her this post ... if that doesn't convince her, mere talking about it might even be harder.

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