TheRock Posted November 8, 2008 Posted November 8, 2008 I have a very good relationship with "Jane's" mom. She likes me and wishes Jane and I would get married some time. Her Grandmother thinks I'm a great catch also and hopes Jane and I marry someday. Her mother ran into me twice in the past and had a heart to heart about Jane's fears and said Jane just needs more time to get out of the house. That was about 6 months ago. Should I talk with Jane's mom about the situation or will that doom the relationship. Jane's Mom and Dad don't get along well and pretty much live together for convenience. Jane's mom knows the father is ridiculous in many ways, but I don't think she knows how much he is destroying his daughter's life. We'd have a good relationship if he backed off and let us be. Do I have a prayer??
norajane Posted November 8, 2008 Posted November 8, 2008 How old are you and Jane? I think it's a good rule to stay away from any behind-Jane's-back consultations with her mother or father.
Lady Bird Posted November 8, 2008 Posted November 8, 2008 Per the information from your other posts, it's the father that does the controlling so I don't believe talking to the mother will do any good and could backfire on you.
Author TheRock Posted November 8, 2008 Author Posted November 8, 2008 I was kinda hoping she could smooth things over and get her to see that it's not ME or US causing the fights, but her father's constant interference. I honestly think her mom would side with me before her husband.
Lady Bird Posted November 8, 2008 Posted November 8, 2008 Backfire in this way: She could see it as you going behind her back and being controlling like her father.
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