mixwell Posted November 8, 2008 Posted November 8, 2008 Okay quick background, was with my ex for 4 mths and we broke up.. After one of my last texts trying to work things out she text me back sayin "you know why it couldn't work. Im with someone and its hard when u text me" so at that point I was like whatever that's it. Basically didn't work because my friend did something that was messed up and she couldn't get over it. Anyways after accepting and goin NC she calls me a week later 3 times around midnight. I was already asleep at that point.. She then calls me the next day when I was at work and I called back. We just chit chatted and she said "sometimes her fingers want to dial my number" anyways conversation ended with me saying have a nice day. I thought it was weird she would say she was seeing someone and then call me 4 times the next week. So fast forward 2 weeks and she calls me again (yesterday) and I didn't answer. She left a voicemail saying she misses hanging out with me and im a cool guy and she wants to hang out even if it is just friends.. I don't know if she is with someone or made it up but the way she said even if it just as friends sounded like she seems single but I duno.. At the end of the message she said "bye boo" When her and I got together she basically wouldn't talk to her guy friends or whatever so its like why does she wanna talk/see me soo bad after telling me she's with someone? I haven't contacted her and im thinking about it. Im either going to call her or text her saying its not a good idea.. I don't know if she's single but I know she misses me and maybe wants to see if things would work ? I know obvious signs that she said she's seein someone and in the vm saying she wants to see me even if its just as friends but I don't think if she was seeing someone she would bother. This is just my observation when her and I were together. Sorry for the crappy grammer but im on a handheld.. Any input is appreciated. MixweLL
Ronni_W Posted November 8, 2008 Posted November 8, 2008 She sounds somewhere between confused and extremely confused. And she broke up with you because of something a friend did??? What, you two look alike and she wasn't sure who really did the messed up thing? Or she just has no clue about personal responsibility and interpersonal boundaries? You may want to consider giving her a bit more time to develop, mentally and emotionally. Unless you look forward to having high drama in your future.
samspade Posted November 8, 2008 Posted November 8, 2008 Just ignore her. Her rebound probably dumped her and she needs attention. Unless you can emotionally handle either platonic friendship or f*ck buddy status, you should not contact her.
Author mixwell Posted November 9, 2008 Author Posted November 9, 2008 Thanks for the input.. Well basically when her and I split my friend messaged her online saying that I hooked up with some chick. My ex and I got back together a few days later and read the message and was pissed.. Anyways I text her saying that it's not a good idea and I didn't know if I would be cool with just being friends with us having been a couple before. She text back saying she wish I didn't think like that and we had fun etc.. I said I duno and that I'd call her later. Well I called her and she didn't answer so I left a VM saying that I basically felt like if I was fun etc then why wasn't it worth working out back then ? I said I feel like I am on the backburner position that I wasn't good enough to work things out as a b/f but its okay being friends and I didn't know if I was cool with that. I said call me back if you want. I probably should've just said leave me alone and don't contact me but I don't know its harder when emotions are involved.. O well Ill see what happens.. MixweLL
Author mixwell Posted November 10, 2008 Author Posted November 10, 2008 Okay latest update.. I didn't feel like waiting for her to txt me back.. Basically I text/voicemailed her saying that its not a good idea for us to hang out.. I said I was over the breakup but I still had feelings for her.. I said I duno if your new guy is lacking etc but if I were worth it you would've been willing to work things out in the past but you didn't. I said basically things happen for a reason and there is a reason I never remained friends with any of my exes and it was because its never mutual feelings. I said please leave me alone and stop contacting me and be happy with your new boy. I said we had fund in the past and if she were single things might be different but she was with someone and I refuse to be the "friend" I wish I was smarter and cut it off in the beginning and never contacted her back but o well live and learn. Since I first text her she turned her phone off (I can tell) which is why I was like f that i wana tell her how I feel over the phone but called her out on being a pu55y because she was with her boy in the VM.. I know my value and I know that I am worth more than that. I will be strong when these lame tempations arise and this has been a testing lesson.. for all of you on LS stay strong and know that you're worth more than you give yourself.. Peace
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