libertygirl88 Posted November 8, 2008 Posted November 8, 2008 I am sooo lonely! My live in bf left 4 mos ago and I am still so lonely. I have tried to move on but he still gives me hope for us. We have still been texting and he comes to see my children; we have no common children. He was just over last night and said he's gonna get a hold of me "to do something". He said we need to rebuild our relationship as we lost the basis from all the fighting before he moved out; but we have no definite "plans"... if I push, he pulls back. He said he is "open" to starting over by rebuilding as friends, dating and seeing where it leads us; but he's soooo laid back, it drives me crazy! I just wanna get on with it and then he says "I am pushing him".... We were together 2 1/2 years and looking at houses to buy; we are 38 and 35! So do I just sit back and wait for him to "get a hold of me" like he said he's gonna go?? I still can't imagine my life without him....
ahhhchooo Posted November 8, 2008 Posted November 8, 2008 Don't sit back and wait for him to call. Do you really want to be someone's bitch like that? Yeah I did that too for a while, sitting around my house moping about my ex coming back and taking all the breadcrumbs she had to offer, then sit around waiting for more breadcrumbs. Meanwhile she's with another guy. I went NC on her and it's very tough. Sometimes I want to talk to her so much. You sound lonely.. if you're like me, post break up your life isn't only devoid of a lover, it's devoid of friends. I went on a few internet dates and expanded my social circle a bit, next week I'm going to a "Meet and Greet" night in a bar where people go to meet new potential friends. My social calendar is filling up and I am starting to feel much better, less lonely, less sad. There are other things out there to fill your time with while you continue to grieve over your ex. It might seem so difficult to do it right now, but just try and get yourself out there and smiling again. Hope this helps. x
Author libertygirl88 Posted November 8, 2008 Author Posted November 8, 2008 I am very lonely; used to being a couple or a family...... Last week he came over and carved pumpkins with my girls and then came over again on Halloween to see the girls get dressed up to go trick-or-treating. We had a loooong talk. He said he cant NOT see the kids. But I am wondering if I am wrong to let him continue seeing the kids (they are 17, 10 and 8), they really miss him and want him to come back too. He said he's was gonna be really miss busy week and next with deer hunting but then he wanted to start tryin to work on "things", he said over the last few months of our relationship and because of all the fighting, we destroyed the basis of any relationship which is friendship and we have to rebuild that before we can move forward with anything. So he wants to start spending time together and then start dating...my counselor said that's actually a very healthy and insightful outlook as long as he follows thru.... but like has been said, I feel like I am sitting here waiting, but yet at the same time, I do want our relationship to work.... I think we both realized the mistakes we made..... he had lost his job and we didn't really know how to communicate; we were taking everything out on each other instead of really "talkin" to each other..... But I am sooo scared and lonely
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