Rudeger Posted November 8, 2008 Posted November 8, 2008 So this girl that I really like and I have organized to go see a movie next week. The problem that I have is that I am not sure if she is viewing this as a date, or rather as a hangout. Therefore I'm unsure of how the paying should go. I don't want to end up looking like a dorkus maximus if we go dutch and she thought it was a date. Also I could make the situation seem awkward if I payed for everything but it turns out it wasn't really a date. When I was talking to her I mentioned this particular movie and she said that we just have to go and see it together, she seemed really enthusiastic so now I've organized a time and place, but like I said I'm not really sure if she sees it as a date or just as a hangout. Help would be appreciated!
Lishy Posted November 8, 2008 Posted November 8, 2008 You have to pay! In my opinion anyway. If you like her and make her pay for herself it will put her off you - Treat it as a date and see how it goes You have more chance of success at getting the girl that way! Good luck (and PAY)
Joyvke Posted November 8, 2008 Posted November 8, 2008 Personally I always want to pay my own half, regarding it being a date or not. Always. Only in a relationship I'd say yes for him paying for me and the other time me paying. Or is that actually going Dutch? lol.
Lady Bird Posted November 8, 2008 Posted November 8, 2008 Don't offer to pay or talk about it, just do it.
allina Posted November 8, 2008 Posted November 8, 2008 Don't offer to pay or talk about it, just do it. Well said, I agree.
Trialbyfire Posted November 8, 2008 Posted November 8, 2008 When you pick her up or meet up with her, give her a hug and say, "hey, I've been looking forward to this date" and see how she reacts. If she balks whether teasingly or seriously, you can backpedal and pretend you were teasing her, just to get a reaction. If it's a confirmed date. Pay, no questions asked!
kizik Posted November 8, 2008 Posted November 8, 2008 I was on a date last night, didn't even really like the girl, but I paid anyway, no questions asked. Be a f*ckin man dude and pay.
forest123 Posted November 8, 2008 Posted November 8, 2008 Dude, its 10 dollars, just pay. If you are alone with a girl you like it is a date. And if it isn't lead the way and make sure it is a date.
BoerumHill Posted November 8, 2008 Posted November 8, 2008 So this girl that I really like... That's all the info we require. Man up and pay.
carhill Posted November 8, 2008 Posted November 8, 2008 Another way to look at it is imagine you marry her, she comes to hate you (or you her) and you have to buy her a house to get rid of her. Kinda puts that 10 bucks for a movie into perspective, yes? So, pay for the movie and hope she doesn't have a good time and leaves you alone Seriously, most women respond positively to a man who leads and pays. They also seem to like a man who is responsible in his choices and doesn't give them too much of himself (financially or otherwise) too soon. Try it and let us know how it works out. Be sure to kiss her when you say goodnight if you feel you had a good time
alphamale Posted November 8, 2008 Posted November 8, 2008 Don't offer to pay or talk about it, just do it. ^^^this
Chinook Posted November 8, 2008 Posted November 8, 2008 That's all the info we require. Man up and pay. I kinda agree... if I date a guy I like.... I will always pay first time.... ... cuz then he feels that he has to take me out again to pay next time...
D-Lish Posted November 8, 2008 Posted November 8, 2008 I'd view it that since you asked, you should pay. Just do it no questions asked. If she wants to then pay for popcorn- she can do that.
Author Rudeger Posted November 8, 2008 Author Posted November 8, 2008 Wow so many responses! I shall pay for the date then. I had no problem with paying it, its just I was a little unsure if she would view it as a date. Sorry I'm a little green at all this, as I've never actually had a proper girlfriend before, so I haven't really gone on many dates. She has a lot more experience than me though, and I'm pretty sure she knows I like her. Thanks for the responses.
Author Rudeger Posted November 8, 2008 Author Posted November 8, 2008 Be sure to kiss her when you say goodnight if you feel you had a good time Ah the kiss, thats where I'm completely unsure of what to do. Is doing it during the movie a bad time? Should I study her and see if she wants it?
silentcharon Posted November 8, 2008 Posted November 8, 2008 Terrible idea! If a guy tried to kiss me when we were watching a movie in the theater, I would be totally turned off. Maybe after the movie, if you guys end up being invited into one another's place, that's a good place to pull it off, IMHO. I would rather be alone with someone for our first kiss
Lady Bird Posted November 8, 2008 Posted November 8, 2008 Ahh...the awkward moment at the end of the first date... Do I shake her hand? Do I move in for a hug? Do I go for the kiss? Hehe...such fun times! Do what feels right and again do NOT ask, that's a turn off.
Author Rudeger Posted November 8, 2008 Author Posted November 8, 2008 Thanks, lol nah I won't ask her if I can do it, I'm not that retarded I think. I guess I'll just have to see what its like after the date
BentSpine Posted November 8, 2008 Posted November 8, 2008 Just remember, the right woman for you will enjoy spending time with you even if she has to pay her own way.
Jenny123 Posted November 8, 2008 Posted November 8, 2008 Hi, don't think it would break the bank if U did pay... go with the signs on the day.i would pay- skinflint not very attractive if it does end upa first date. good luckSo this girl that I really like and I have organized to go see a movie next week. The problem that I have is that I am not sure if she is viewing this as a date, or rather as a hangout. Therefore I'm unsure of how the paying should go. I don't want to end up looking like a dorkus maximus if we go dutch and she thought it was a date. Also I could make the situation seem awkward if I payed for everything but it turns out it wasn't really a date. When I was talking to her I mentioned this particular movie and she said that we just have to go and see it together, she seemed really enthusiastic so now I've organized a time and place, but like I said I'm not really sure if she sees it as a date or just as a hangout. Help would be appreciated!
Green Posted November 8, 2008 Posted November 8, 2008 Ahh...the awkward moment at the end of the first date... Do I shake her hand? Do I move in for a hug? Do I go for the kiss? Hehe...such fun times! Do what feels right and again do NOT ask, that's a turn off. It would probably turn you on if I asked for a kiss. And the kiss is the most important part of turning it into a date... even if she says she doesn't kiss on the first date she will probably give you points for trying
kashmir Posted November 8, 2008 Posted November 8, 2008 even if she says she doesn't kiss on the first date she will probably give you points for trying Seriously? I always figured if a girl declined a kiss then it's over with her. You try to kiss, she backs off and from that point on thinks you're a creepy pervert for trying. This reminds me of an experience I once had. About a year ago I went to a movie with this girl. I got there before her and bought both tickets. Then when she came and went in line for a ticket I pulled out them both, smiled, and said, "no need, I got it" That might have killed my chances right from the start. She was pretty shy, so we only talked for 10 minutes or so before the movie. Neither of us made any kind of move in the theater like holding hands. I was getting the sense she was disinterested from the moment I paid for her ticket, so I kinda forgot about her and just enjoyed the movie. Outside the theater she hugged me and we departed ways. She seemed pretty quiet and down, especially at the end.
Green Posted November 8, 2008 Posted November 8, 2008 Seriously? I always figured if a girl declined a kiss then it's over with her. You try to kiss, she backs off and from that point on thinks you're a creepy pervert for trying. This reminds me of an experience I once had. About a year ago I went to a movie with this girl. I got there before her and bought both tickets. Then when she came and went in line for a ticket I pulled out them both, smiled, and said, "no need, I got it" That might have killed my chances right from the start. She was pretty shy, so we only talked for 10 minutes or so before the movie. Neither of us made any kind of move in the theater like holding hands. I was getting the sense she was disinterested from the moment I paid for her ticket, so I kinda forgot about her and just enjoyed the movie. Outside the theater she hugged me and we departed ways. She seemed pretty quiet and down, especially at the end. yeah you should have tried to kiss her. It could have only made her like you, even if she rejected you on the kiss. Some times they don't realize it was a date unless you try for the kiss even if you paid
lovestruck818 Posted November 8, 2008 Posted November 8, 2008 Why should the guy have to and be expected pay all the time? Honestly? I'm a woman and I don't ever let a guy pay for me...why should he? I have a job, I make money...a woman allowing a guy to pay is the reason women are viewed as 2nd to men by much of society.
Shygirl15 Posted November 9, 2008 Posted November 9, 2008 Why should the guy have to and be expected pay all the time? Honestly? I'm a woman and I don't ever let a guy pay for me...why should he? I have a job, I make money...a woman allowing a guy to pay is the reason women are viewed as 2nd to men by much of society. Oh yeah?? Word- it's actually a lot of fun...and if ya play cards right u get free stuff too. I haven't had to pay for a drink ever ...I barely have to pay when I go out to eat. Do you have a multiple personalities disorder or something??
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