sensitive Posted November 8, 2008 Posted November 8, 2008 I caught my husband watching transexual video and I can't take it really. He said because the man, looks like woman that's why he watch it. He fancied transexual man. Is he gay? what should i do?
norajane Posted November 8, 2008 Posted November 8, 2008 Is that all he watches, or does he watch other porn, too? It may have just caught his attention for the oddity of it, as he said, or it might be a fetish. Do you mean transvestite (man dressed up as a woman) or transsexual (man with breast implants, but still has his guy parts below). There's a difference...transsexuals are men who feel they are women inside and are becoming women to the extent surgery and their finances can allow...they are attracted to men, unless they are gay also and then it really gets confusing! Transvestites like dressing up as women, but feel all man inside and get turned on by women...unless they are gay transvestites. Meaning, him watching that porn doesn't mean he is gay or not, one way or another, it's unclear. If it's transvestite porn, maybe hubby has a secret desire to dress up, rather than to be with a man.
Author sensitive Posted November 8, 2008 Author Posted November 8, 2008 he watches other porn too. transexual meaning, men that really looks like women, with implanted boobs but still have penis. He likes watching that, but eeew.. with penis.. why? he already know that they're men that just looks like women and still watches it, even caught him masturbating in front of it. really disgusting. i dont know how to take it. I cannot imagine. makes me sick.
OpenBook Posted November 8, 2008 Posted November 8, 2008 Yup, he's gay. He is living a lie with you. That said, I suspect there are many traditional couples out there (well, at least more than we think) who have homosexual preferences but who choose to hide them for the sake of creating a "normal" family unit, at least in the eyes of today's society. I can't judge them for it. I think the outcome of your situation mostly depends on how you choose to view this revelation. Many would view it as a betrayal of the marriage. Some would view it as a sickness that must be cured. And some would change their perception of what marriage is all about in the first place. Historically, marriage has largely been a business partner arrangement, for the sake of continuing the family line. Love and sex were not considered as fundamental or even significant parts of it. It's your life, your marriage, and your choice on what you want to do with it. What do you really value about it (e.g,. is he a good partner to you? a trusted friend?), and can you see yourself remaining with this man for the rest of your life? You just have to weigh it out.
Author sensitive Posted November 8, 2008 Author Posted November 8, 2008 I actually told him that before and he insisted that he's not.. but something inside is telling me he is.. what else could he be.. if he fancies transexual men.. cant accept it.. what a shame..
burning 4 revenge Posted November 8, 2008 Posted November 8, 2008 Pornograhy creates fetishes that werent already there. I wouldnt bank on his being gay
LakesideDream Posted November 8, 2008 Posted November 8, 2008 Oops... that's a bit hard to accept. But what the heck, "Change" is the most important thing. Maybe you should "Give Change a Chance". Or not.
JamesM Posted November 9, 2008 Posted November 9, 2008 Pornograhy creates fetishes that werent already there. I wouldnt bank on his being gay I agree. Does he like watching the men with other almost men, or does he like to imagine that these ARE women with penises? Having seen some of those transexuals, some actually do look very, very much like women. I don't think I would worry about what type of porn he watches if he doesn't fixate on any non-heterosexual type for a length of time...assuming you do not mind he watches porn. On the other hand, if any of this porn interferes with your sex life, THEN I think there is a problem.
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted November 9, 2008 Posted November 9, 2008 I wouldn't worry too much about it. It's a freakish thing us straight people don't see all the time, and now it's accessible on the internet - he's probably just curious, and a bit turned on by it. Most likely it will pass, but in the meantime why not watch with him and have a good laugh?
Green Posted November 9, 2008 Posted November 9, 2008 Its some disturbing porn to watch a person with but it doesnt necesarily mean he is gay. ... he could be though... I dunno ****... at a minimum hes into tranies
norajane Posted November 9, 2008 Posted November 9, 2008 How's your sex life? Still passionate? Regular sex, and he's turned on being with you? If so, it's less likely he's gay and more likely he's just temporarily fascinated by something unusual.
Author sensitive Posted November 9, 2008 Author Posted November 9, 2008 I really dont want to think that he is gay, but I really couldnt take it.. this is like the third time I caught him, and I already told him before that I never want to see him watching this, its so hard to resist for him and he couldnt promise to me that he'll not watch this again. Still he insisted he's not gay. We already had discussion about this before, he said this is something new to see and he's curious. I have a friend who's transexual and is really pretty, I mentioned this to him before and he got excited and it's like amazing for him coz I know someone who's transexual. Now we're not talking.. it's painful to me that this is a cause of argument. I want to accept him for what he is but it's so hard, how can I? I don't really see a man liking a transexual normal.. is that normal? no of course not. i'm getting a headache thinking about it, my mind cant accept it.
Author sensitive Posted November 9, 2008 Author Posted November 9, 2008 sex life is ok, i think he's too hungry for sex actually, but seeing him watching this thing.. i'm the one who's losing the urge to have sex with him.
Author sensitive Posted November 9, 2008 Author Posted November 9, 2008 if its just temporary, how temporary? coz i don't really know how long has he been watching this thing...
ricardotorero Posted November 9, 2008 Posted November 9, 2008 Hi In my opinion it doesn't mean his gay. I worked with a guy who was 100% gay and he said that watching straight porn also turned him on. The facination with Porn is that it is fantasy and other peolpe.
Enema Posted November 9, 2008 Posted November 9, 2008 Doesn't mean he's gay. I'm straight as an arrow and occasionally watch the same thing. What should you do? Get over it.
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