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hi. been on here a few times and know the rules of nc but on mon. we talked and it was everyday since till this morn. I love talking to her and still make her laugh. that is one thing her new boyfriend doesn't do. she says he's pretty serious but feels safe with him.. we had a passionate,pasionate relationship but was extreme on both ends. wen it was bad,it was horribl, wen it was good, ugh!! awsome!!! together 5 yrs. and married for two.. seperated many times and the last was a month ago and she went back to her rebound man,again. wen we were together and arguing about everyday issues, she wud give me altamatums, like do this or we r thru. and now she admits to taking things too literally. wtf... if she wud of realized that bak then, we wud still be together and had issues resolved.. she has put over 12,000 on her credit card in a year, bought an expensive car with high payments and actually sent me pics of living room with new furniture in which is beautiful but I know has too be at least 5000 bucks right there, said she got it at no interest for a yr. I let her kno that I was hurting, how she can move on so quickly and Im here wanting to find a hole too bury myself in, n she says don't say that, she admits the diff. btween her and I is that I'm dealing with the pain and and will move on and be ok, while she masks her issues and runs from them.. she always did that with our issues. bury them, sabotage and run...I told her that it will catch up to her sooner or later and she said she knows..she said it hasn't been easy on her and she still struggles with our relationship everyday so it hasn't been easy on her... I told her that i have to go nc because wen we talk I go back too day one of trying too heal, she understood and said she-ll be around if i ever needed to talk, 2 hrs. later she sends me pics of her new living room!!! it did crush me and I told her that and she said sorry she wasn't thinking... she is evil and doesn't realize it. she wants friendship but I want her...friendships with ex just hurts the dumpee.. she got her cake and eating it too... what do i do? I know, bak too nc rite? someone please help me understand her actions..

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Yea man, NC is the way to go! I know you're hurting right now but the best way to move on is by cutting her out of your life. Don't let her disrespect you like that, she's not worth your time

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For starters, I definately think NC is the right way to go. If shes hurting you, then its good to take time for yourself.

 

Also, and this is kind of a good on you, is that you ARE dealing with your emotions! Your ex is right when she says she is not dealing with her problems head on. She has ran to another man to make her feel less lonely, and beyond that, she is spending TONS of money to make herself feel better. That will only put her in major debt and the satisfaction from buying new things only lasts so long.

 

Be happy that you're a strong person that is on the road to recovery! Its not always easy, but you're doing okay. ;)

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thanx for the response tokyo and mast. it's greatly appreciated!!! it's good to have Ls and people like u with similer issues like me. this place helps alot. I feel like going crazy at times with the fire that burns inside of me. working out does help fizzle it down some but wud love a tidal wave too quench it for good!!!!!!!!!!!sigh

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You are hurting now but in the long run, you will be the one who is better off. Just because someone appears to have moved on based on their behavior does not mean that in their heart they have dealt with their issues. You are doing that, she is not, and you have to do what you need for YOURSELF, not to grab on to any crumb she throws you.

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ok, my question to that is how will she face her issues, she's erasing me n started a new relationship with a new, i know the money issue down the road will catch up with her but as for her n I... I don't know, maybe once I have a new rel. she will see wat she lost,but maybe not.. I do kno just a couple days ago she was throwing up and wen she gets upset about things, she throws up. I knew it was that she was thinking of me but she just said it must be the full moon!lol she is affected by it cause after 5 yrs. full moons tend to be a force with her emotions!! did I mention she has the traits of being bi-polar? she was diagnosed with it yrs. ago but she said it was a miss diagnose?!?!?! she'a n denial I think

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