TheRock Posted November 7, 2008 Posted November 7, 2008 So, my GF and I are giving it another chance. I'm 37, she's 31 and we've been together 2 1/2 years. While I believe Jane truly wants us to workout, from what she's said, I don't know if she has much faith in it working out. She's feeling that maybe we aren't sexually compatible. Let me explain why. 11 months into our relationship, I had ED problems. Stopped ejaculating voluntarily. Docs think it was from stress and/or a back injury I had recently had. She started to think she didn't turn me on, we weren't sexually compatible or I wasn't attracted to her. I told her what the doc said, but she was skeptical. I went to counseling and was given Cialis to hopefully make me feel more confident. It worked, but she has harbored her feelings since and won't stop thinking we're not compatible. I never told her about the Cialis, and honestly think the reason I had the ED prob was because I WAS SO attracted to her and wanted everything to be perfect and over stressed myself. How do I convince her that I am attracted to her and she turns me on and hopefully get her to give US a REAL 2nd Chance? I don't want to fight with her or dwell on the past problems... I think this problem is a major underlying reason why our relationship hasn't moved forward. Is it possible to change her mind or is it too late? We're going out again on Sunday to re-create one of our favorite first dates together.
justaman99 Posted November 8, 2008 Posted November 8, 2008 I think this problem is a major underlying reason why our relationship hasn't moved forward. You think it is. Why not just ask her? Start this next chance at your relationship by talking to her and asking her to be open with you about her concerns. If you have to tell her you think she has issues with your ummm, abillity. Communicate, communicate, then talk some more until it's all out there. -Just
Author TheRock Posted November 8, 2008 Author Posted November 8, 2008 I wish it was that easy to just talk to her about it, but from the way our "talk" went the other day, she's at her breaking point. Neither of us wants to fight again. We've fought over the same issues about 5 times this past year, not being able to sleep or eat afterward, but we stayed together and kept trying. We never discussed the Sex Issue, it actually just dawned on me that this is probably still bothering her. We're supposed to go out on Sunday. Should I ignore the issue for a few dates and get things back on track first or talk about it up front. I don't want to spoil the mood...Thx
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