complication Posted November 7, 2008 Posted November 7, 2008 Awhile ago, I had a date set up. She "forgot", rescheduled, and although she said she was interested in me and wanted to go out, she had a TV show date w/ her girlfriends and would hate to cut the date shorter than it should be. Few weeks passed, yesterday we're talking and I told her how my buddy thinks she's hot. She wanted to know his initials, she lost the bet, but said "there's other ways to get it out of you". She kept bring it up, but then I'm being a playful jerk and she says, "you're such an ******* haha" and dick and jerk etc. But she was laughing hysterically. She didn't bring the kid up at all from that point on, it was her and I. We talked, she admittedly said "we have more in common than I thought" (regarding our attitudes, politics), and we go get some food ( I didn't pay for her) and I was making some zombie joke and she literally could not breath from laughing so hard. She said I am ****ing hilarious. I made sexual references for a bit, she admits her mind was in the gutter. Get back to my place, and I only had like 30 mins and she had to study, but we started to watch a horror movie. Make a move, make out with her a few times but everytime I tried to do more she'd teasingly say "okay lets wtach the movie". At the end, she left and we didn't do anything but make out. She was into it though, I got blue balled (and she left probably knowing it). She then txts me later and says "hope you have a good night :)" (b/c i was off to my buddy's place) and she said "you too :)" and she sent back "have a good night :)" a bit later after that. ....what? happened? My buddy expects that she did not want a lay because she's into me now (for whatever reason), if she were "so so" she would have done a lay probably. How does a girl blow you off but then do this? Cliffs: Girl blew off a date about 1.5 months ago. She said she was interested, though. Yesterday, I tease the **** out of her, she's saying "haha you're such an *******", admits we have a good more in common, and go to my place (although we're time limited, she had to study I was going out) and made out with her a few times. Anything more, she'd teasingly say "lets watch the movie!" and said I was persistant. After she texts me "hope you have a good night :)" and I sent "you too :)" and she says "have a good night :)". How does she dismiss me --> make out a few times, but not lay? She may be into me?
carhill Posted November 7, 2008 Posted November 7, 2008 Background http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t164163/ My advice still stands if this is the same person
Author complication Posted November 7, 2008 Author Posted November 7, 2008 Background http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t164163/ My advice still stands if this is the same person Nope, different girl! That girl has a boyfriend that I didn't know about.
Author complication Posted November 7, 2008 Author Posted November 7, 2008 She could have been on her period. When making out with me, she tounged and all. So...yeah.
konfuzd Posted November 7, 2008 Posted November 7, 2008 some self respecting girls don't like to hop into the sack on the first date. If you want a trashy girl, let this one be and find someone who respects her as more than just a lay.
Author complication Posted November 7, 2008 Author Posted November 7, 2008 some self respecting girls don't like to hop into the sack on the first date. If you want a trashy girl, let this one be and find someone who respects her as more than just a lay. Remember, though, she blew me off a month ago. Tonight wasn't a date, heck, we went to a supermarket to buy stupid **** and we didn't pay for each other at all.
carhill Posted November 7, 2008 Posted November 7, 2008 Different lady but an oddly familiar dynamic. Common denominator is??
Author complication Posted November 7, 2008 Author Posted November 7, 2008 Different lady but an oddly familiar dynamic. Common denominator is?? But this girl did make out with me, willingly, 3x times and got back to my place.
samspade Posted November 7, 2008 Posted November 7, 2008 A couple of possibilities here. She might be curious to know which of your buddies thinks she's hot (is this true or you teasing her?), and was trying to extract it from you without going too far. Or, she was just being flakey earlier. Girls will do this, especially if you are not #1 in her rotation. Perhaps she was into a different guy during that first date and was keeping you on the back burner. Now perhaps you are on the front burner. Sometimes you have to be a little persistent without putting up with TOO much flakiness. It could also be because you acted more "into" her a month ago, and this time around were more cocky and funny. If I were you, I'd just ride it. Don't push too hard but see if she'll hang out again. If she flakes again, you'll know she's not serious and probably not worth worrying about. She might want to f*ck your brains out but not come across as too eager/slutty.
carhill Posted November 7, 2008 Posted November 7, 2008 IME, one should not gauge the value and/or intent of a woman by her willingness to "make out". What do you want here? To know if she's "into you"? IMO, it doesn't matter. It might if you were married You just do what you do and, if she's there, well, OK
konfuzd Posted November 7, 2008 Posted November 7, 2008 Remember, though, she blew me off a month ago. Tonight wasn't a date, heck, we went to a supermarket to buy stupid **** and we didn't pay for each other at all. So, you're saying you expect a girl to put out BEFORE the first date? She probably didn't want to seem to eager at first, wanted to see if you'd chase her. You did, so she went along with it. She was interested enough to make out with you, but that doesn't equate to jumping in the sack.
kashmir Posted November 7, 2008 Posted November 7, 2008 Is there a problem here? I'd be happy as hell if I got that far with a girl that early. Sometimes it's best not to rush things too fast.
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