williamz Posted November 7, 2008 Posted November 7, 2008 Today is my 20th birthday and instead of enjoying my family, the real ones who love me, treating me great, I am constantly wondering if my ex will contact me to wish me a happy birthday. It sucks that she has that much power over me. We had the final falling out in august, and after no contact since then I have had some limited friendly contact with her in the past week. She knows today is my birthday and I can't fathom her not taking 2 seconds to wish me a happy birthday. I wish I didn't care, but I do and it sucks.
Peter_pan Posted November 7, 2008 Posted November 7, 2008 sorry to hear that. i never heard a word from my ex. hurt a lot. others would say silence is golden. maybe it is.
lofi_tokyo Posted November 7, 2008 Posted November 7, 2008 Today is my 20th birthday and instead of enjoying my family, the real ones who love me, treating me great, I am constantly wondering if my ex will contact me to wish me a happy birthday. It sucks that she has that much power over me. We had the final falling out in august, and after no contact since then I have had some limited friendly contact with her in the past week. She knows today is my birthday and I can't fathom her not taking 2 seconds to wish me a happy birthday. I wish I didn't care, but I do and it sucks. This is DEFINATELY a day I am dreading. Luckily my birthday is in February, but holy crap. If he calls? Sucky, I'd start to wonder if he missed me. If he doesn't call? Ouch! Sorry this is a hard day for you. Try to take at least one hour to enjoy yourself, okay? Happy Birthday!!
EmperorR Posted November 7, 2008 Posted November 7, 2008 ah my ex birthday comes up before mine, No way I will text her
CherishG Posted November 7, 2008 Posted November 7, 2008 My bday was just last wednesday on the 29th of Oct and I also dreaded that day. The eve before my bday he (the ex) called me 10min before midnite and I didn't know what to think at first. He was trying to make small chit chat to reach that exact midnite cue for him to wish me a happy bday, and I swear to you, the entire time I cried (silently ofcourse). Right when it turned midnight he wished me a happy bday and I was just so speechless, I didn't know what to say. Whatever happens, whether she calls u or not, it will still hurt. Try to enjoy your bday regardless! Happy Bday
ninjaturtles Posted November 7, 2008 Posted November 7, 2008 Happy birthdayy!!!!!!! I felt the same way on my birthday...actually I thought he would not call. He did and I was shocked to say the least. I did not answer the call and he left me a voice message. I text him to thank him for calling. On his birthday however, I did not contact him (despite the fact that he wished my happy birthday on my day). If she doesnt call, it will hurt you but that goes to show the type of person she is. TRY to enjoy your birthday........xxx
Author williamz Posted November 8, 2008 Author Posted November 8, 2008 Thanks guys... She actually did call which was very very surprising. Seeing as how I haven't heard her voice in about 2 months. I thought even if she did wish me a happy birthday it would be through a text or something impersonal. I'm pretty surprised that she remembered my birthday and also that the call was as friendly as it was. We haven't been on friendly terms in a very long time and it seemed so strange that we could just pick up and talk as if we were still best friends. Cracking jokes, telling me stuff i've missed, asking me when I'll be back at school and if I would be at our schools football game this weekend (i withdrew this semester due to illness). So this leads to a new set of problems. I'll probably read too much into this. But she seemed to want to hang out with me and see me when I'm back in town. I have absolutely no idea how to play it because I don't want to just be friends with her, but at the same time I KNOW that if i bring up the relationship in anyway it will push her away. I really think we would need some time to just be friendly and get reacquainted for both sides seeing as how we both said and did very hurtful things to each other. So basically the dilemma is I know I'd have to hang out and get reacquainted, but I'd only want to do that if it was on the road to reconciliation. But at the same time I think the only chance we would have is if she sees that I'm over her and I don't rehash any of the past. How could I figure out if she wants to reconcile or just friendzone me without explicitly bringing it up?
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