sarahlioy Posted November 7, 2008 Posted November 7, 2008 its been four days, november third he broke up with me. the day before our seventh month. he said he couldn't take it anymore. let me back up and give you some background about our relationship. we had a connection that i can not explain. than again we fought a lot and it made us stressed out. although when we looked at each other in the eyes we just knew we love one another. we hung out the night before we broke up everything was fine. after we broke up i tried my hardest to get him back, because i told myself i wouldnt give up. he promised me a lot of stuff when we were together and its crushed. now i keep telling myself, im not going to dwell over someone i cant have. i think this a time to find myself and have fun being sixteen. still back in my head i know i still love him and we share so many memories. i still have this thought he'll come back even though he said were done for good and he said no more chances. than again i dont want to get my hopes up and just keep that thought in the back of my head. i stopped crying because i feel lifes to short to cry. i just wish he knew how much i love him. i feel our relationship hasn't had that closer. just need advise.
lofi_tokyo Posted November 7, 2008 Posted November 7, 2008 Sarah, you're right when you say you're 16 and should be enjoying life. Right now though, its absolutely okay to be crushed. When I was 16 my boyfriend left me for another girl he met at a party while I was out of town. I remember it was spring break, and I just lay in my room the whole week under the blankets, staring at the wall and feeling feverish. If I couldn't take it anymore, I'd go running - I got up to 20k runs! Its winter, so maybe its too cold to run now but... let yourself grieve, let yourself be sad, and you know what? Someday you'll start feeling a lot better. In March he left me, by September I still was dealing with being betrayed, but did not hurt anymore, and by November of that year I was over my ex and all over a new man. I guess it took a long time to recover 100%, and it may take a while for you, but things will get better, as time passes you won't care so much! Find something to occupy yourself, that will help a ton. For me it was three things: Running WoW (world of warcraft) Ultimate Frisbee My ex played Ultimate on one of my teams, so to get away I went to every out of tournament I possibly could. It was awesome. I think the first 3 months are the worst. Then you'll notice you still hurt, but not constantly, you'll find yourself just enjoying the majority of your day... And!! Before you know it? Well, you'll be one happy girl again and living life. Yes, it took my March-Nov to get better, but honestly after June I felt good enough to do things for me again. Have hope, you'll make it!
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