mface Posted November 7, 2008 Posted November 7, 2008 The man in question has been my friend for two years. We began dating in May and everything seemed to be going very well, until the last month when he started to seem really on edge. He went from hinting he was going to propose around Christmas to what I can only describe as panicking. He broke up with me, saying he thinks he's not right for marriage (he's religious and uses the term single vocation), but that he still loves me. In fact, he still calls me a couple times a day and we've gone out a few times over the last to weeks. Last time I saw him, he seemed nearly in tears over everything. Basically, he's gone from being a very strong, mature man, to a terrified little boy. I'm very sure his fears have a lot to do with emotional intimacy and losing someone. There are two loveless marriages in his immediate family. On top of this, he lost a very close friend in 9/11. Everyone in my family and both of our friends agree that my guy is definitely supposed to get married. And other than this glitch, I still believe we are right for each other. What should I be doing to help him get through this and give our relationship another chance. Unfortunately, I have a tendency to lash out when I'm hurt, and I've been very hunt by this. I was literally blindsided. So, obviously, I shouldn't go all "woman scorned" on him, but please tell me some positive things I can do for him, and also to counter-act my anger.
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