Strawberry Cane Posted November 7, 2008 Posted November 7, 2008 Ok, so here's the story. I've met this guy through a friend, and we recently started hanging out. Innocently enough with a movie at his place for the first night. Then another time, just hanging out again. After every time we'd hang out he'd say "Call me or Message me tomorrow." The third time, it was Halloween, and he asked if I wanted to hand out candy with him. I went over, we watched tv, and he asked if I could drop him off at a friends Halloween party. When he was getting out of the car, I kissed him since he never made any moves on me at this point. I called him later while he was at the bar and he told me in his sloppy but truly sweet drunk talk "When you kissed me, I liked that. I like you! " Repeating himself a few times. Anyway, we've been talking every day, and everyday he continues to say "call me or message me tomorrow". The thing is, every time I go over, he always initiates crawling into bed and snuggling, which we did a few times, then finally, we had sex last night, and he fell asleep snuggling me. I couldn't sleep at all (I wasn't tired), and I had to go home because I had things to do, so I asked him "do you want me to go home?" he said "No, stay." but I told him I really did have to go... so I left, and he said "Ok, well goodnight" but he was sleep talking, hardly awake. He didn't pressure me into the sex part, and I doubt he would have actually done it had I not made the first move. He just always wants to cuddle in his bed. So today, I called him before I went to work at about 4 o'clock, unsure as to whether or not I'd ever actually hear from him again because I wasn't sure if he was really feeling me in any "relationship" kind of way (and he knows that I am not interested in anything casual, since it was something I told him a few nights before) Anyway, and I didn't get an answer, so I just figured he might not be interested in continuing anything. But then he called back to say "hey whats up" and chit chat. He asked me if he could call me after his hockey game, and I said for sure. After that, I was at work and I got a tap on my shoulder, and it was him. He came in shopping (I work in a grocery store), and stopped to just say hey. He called me tonight, and we talked... and again... he said "Call or Message me tomorrow." The thing is, when we talk, we don't really have much to say to each other. We just kind of say silly things that are kind of pointless, then sometimes we get into a bit of a conversation, but sometimes it can seem kind of dry. When were cuddlin watchin movies and stuff, he sometimes gives me a squeeze, or a kiss on the head, but when were around others, he wont even touch my hand or anything. Not on his own anyway. He sat down next to me on the couch with his roommate there, and had his hand on my leg, but I think maybe it just kind of fell in that position, that it wasn't intentional. I haven't felt any INSTANT CHEMISTRY with him, but the more time I spend with this guy, the more I like him, the more I want to be a part of his life. It's building for me, but I donno if he feels the same. Another thing, I donno if he's just shy or whatnot, but he doesn't talk about his feelings at all... and I donno how he's feeling about whats going on between us. Am I just something he keeps around for company to kill lonelyness? Or do you think he might be interested in long term? He hasn't made any suggestion that we are a couple or anything, but I have attended a few of his hockey games, and I am the only one sitting in the stands. He's never said anything to me like "your pretty" or "I like hanging out with you" or mainly, anything an admirer would say to someone, so thats why I'm thinking he might not be interested for sure. And he's never initiated anything. I'm always the one who plants the first kiss, or gives the first hug. Is he shy? Or does it seem like maybe he's just doing all this because I like it and he's being a nice guy and thinks I'm just a nice girl? He has a 4yr old son, and I met him for the first time last night. But it was his bedtime by the time I got there. He was so cute, and asked me who I was and crawled right up on my lap and told me stories. Such a beautiful little child. Anyway... he was going to read him a bedtime story but got a call from work to do something, and I asked him if it was ok if I read him a story while he finished working at the computer. He said sure... so I went up and read a story. The thing is, he is just so casual, I'm sure he'd let anyone read his son a story, so I didn't know if that was something special or not. What do you think? He hasn't said much, and I know some people say "actions speak louder then words" but I'm a more audio than visual learner, so any insight would be appreciated.
Author Strawberry Cane Posted November 7, 2008 Author Posted November 7, 2008 Please anyone, just one insight is worth it. Sorry the story is so long.
Agent_99 Posted November 7, 2008 Posted November 7, 2008 SC~ I don't know that i have any insight into this guy. BUT it is kind of a red flag that he seems emotionally distant. There are a million reasons why he might be. So my advice. . . talk to him about it. If it scares him off, well then you have your answer about how he feels about you. If you get some answers, then you have a clearer idea of where you stand with him. Just tell him that while you aren't 'in love' with him, you are developing feelings, and you want to know with what you two have shared, if it will go anywhere, and where it is that he would like it to go. Hope this helps ~99
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