lostgirl_2981 Posted November 7, 2008 Posted November 7, 2008 So here it is...I was dating my boyfriend for 4 years. We both had got out of marriages that were not great and we both have 1 child. We met and were good friends for about 8 months. When we were both divorced we had decided to take it to the next step. Everything went really well however he was still really jaded by his previous marriage and working through trust issues and for him to understand that not all of us (females) are as evil as some was tough. The first 2 years were alot of breaking up and getting back together and over and over. but we overcame all that and everything was very good. I did alot of the leg work in the relationship I will say and I didnt get alot in return. So I will bring it to the now. 7 months ago I moved away from where we lived for my job. Him and I never lived together and when talks would come up about it all went down hill. So I took the job and moved about 6 hours away. It wasnt until about 3 weeks after I left that I finally got my 1st ILU...I was really hurt by that. So then talks of us being together and him moving out to where I was started. It was very short lived because once he told the ex about the possibility she proceeded to say that she planned to move where he was so he could live in the same place as his child. After over 3 years of him doing all the contact/work/everything...I leave and now she wants to move...? Go figure. So now not only has the relationship gone to the dumps, but now he is stuck between a rock in a hard place. Stay there where he can see the kid, or move to be with me? Do yo see where this is going? So I made a big decision and called it off. I didnt think it was right to make him have to choose between me or his kid. So now I have given up everything. I let him go and I am a mess. Was it the right thing to do? I really would like some others views on this. Please nothing nasty
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