pandagirl Posted November 7, 2008 Posted November 7, 2008 Does this happen to anyone else? In real life, the guys who approach me are more often than not younger than me. I'm 30, and I've had guys as young as 19 ask me our, but more likely in the 25-30 range. Online, the men who contact me are usually in the 35-45 range. Will younger men not even consider me on paper if I am older than them? I find it hilarious!
jadedone Posted November 7, 2008 Posted November 7, 2008 I think you are onto something. In person they don't know your age when they approach you, they are going by your looks. Online they know your age upfront and make snap judgement to skip past you.
D-Lish Posted November 7, 2008 Posted November 7, 2008 Depends on the dating site PG... On POF, they have that picture tape flashing by where you only see pics and not age. I get the whole 19-23 crowd messaging me (um, I'm over 35). Usually what they say is "holy crap, you don't look 36, we should hang out". Read: Cougar-Mania. At one point they put the age up beside the pics and my messages got cut in half. But I am like you- when out in public, I get hit on by really young guys probably more than any other age group. I actually had some highschool boys follow me around the mall the other day whistling and making kissing sounds. I was with my mom and dad:confused: I was mortified. People have an idea of what they want ingrained in their heads. When they see age on paper, they won't bother. Seeing you in person is a whole different story... You look young, so they make the approach. Obviously, it's the people hitting on you in person that should hold more weight!
Isolde Posted November 7, 2008 Posted November 7, 2008 D-lish, I had no idea you were a day over 30. Wow.
Author pandagirl Posted November 7, 2008 Author Posted November 7, 2008 People have an idea of what they want ingrained in their heads. When they see age on paper, they won't bother. Seeing you in person is a whole different story... You look young, so they make the approach. Obviously, it's the people hitting on you in person that should hold more weight! For realllzzz! That's the problem with online dating. It's a good way to meet new people, but I feel like everyone is "shopping" for a mate. It's not like I look *super* young in real life. But, usually people think I'm 24ish. Not that I want to date 24-year-old boys. haha. I just find it kind of creepy/makes me feel weird, that being 30, I am technically "hot and young" to men in their 40s. yeesh.
Isolde Posted November 7, 2008 Posted November 7, 2008 Hmm my sister is 26 and says people her age tend to date guys in their early thirties... so at 30 dating someone in their forties shouldn't be that big of a deal, though i guess everyone has their preference
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