SarahT111 Posted November 7, 2008 Posted November 7, 2008 Hey all! I just need a bit of some help with a mam im currently dating. He lives 4 hours away due to uni commitments and we haven't been together for that long, maybe about 5 months. Anyway I was just wondering how much contact you would expect/is normal in such a situation? I adore my man very much but the constant lack of contact is really starting to get me down. We were very good friends years before we got together and his contact has always been bad, he would ignore me for weeks, but it didnt matter so much then as we were just friends! However when we got together for the first 4 months he was great! He would call and txt everyday with sweet messages and made lots of effort to see me etc. But now its all stopped He has finished uni and has a full time job now so said he is unable to see me for a few months and also said I cant go down there because he is to busy. Phonecalls have completely stopped and im now lucky if I get one txt a day! I have tried and tried to keep things going. Literally have done everything I can possibly think of! For example this week firstly he ignored me for 3 days straight then got angry when I finally lost my temper and asked why he was ignoring me. I then got a few messages then next day after I had to grovel and apologise and now he has again ignored me for two days!! I understand some males aren't the best at contact but how do I get through to him that I cant take this!? He was so good at the beginning of our relationship but now its all stopped. He is ALWAYS angry and moody for no reason. He never sends me sweet messages anymore, only one word answers all about him. Im tired of it. I just want it to be how it used to be! How do I get though to him tho when he ignores me!!!!
jadedone Posted November 7, 2008 Posted November 7, 2008 He's lost interest, plain and simple. What man tells his woman NOT to come see him because he is busy with work? I don't think it's unreasonable to have contact everyday. Even on my busy days I stop to either send or reply to a text from my GF. Something is up.
Miranda1 Posted November 7, 2008 Posted November 7, 2008 I wouldn't worry too much. It sounds like typical Australian male behaviour! They always put their work/mates/football/pub before girls. It's not fair! Us girls are so lonely here in Australia - whether we're in relationships or single, it doesn't really make a difference. They always ignore us! But I try not to dwell on it, and just hang out with my girlfriends - that always makes me happier!
PrincessPeach Posted November 7, 2008 Posted November 7, 2008 Although I think he should be making an effort to contact you more often than he is... I think contacting every day as a rule should be avoided. There are some days when you just don't feel like or can't or are so busy you don't remember to call making the call every day rule something that is just going to cause problems when it doesn't happen. I have always gone by the rule to not expect calls very day but if I or he wanted to talk we could always call (even if it was every day) and if we had time when the other called we would be happy to chat. I'd tell him you don't necessarily expect to hear from him every day, but he should be able to find at least 10-15 minutes out of his schedule to talk to you every few days at the very least.
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