alwayssme Posted November 7, 2008 Posted November 7, 2008 I know it shouldn't matter, and I probably don't even want to know but I just wonder if he actually misses me at all...even if he's moved on. I don't know, maybe it's just me but spending every signle day with someone and sharing over two years of my life with them---i would miss the person even if they were just a friend. Hell if I had a dog and one day it went away or I gave it away---I would miss them. lol I don't know, I wonder what he's up to, how he's been, if he ever thinks of me. Who knows what goes through our ex'es heads? well goodnight everybody!! getting paid tomorrow :bunny: then going shopping, getting my hair & nails done. I'm spoiling myself.
northstar1 Posted November 7, 2008 Posted November 7, 2008 I know it shouldn't matter, and I probably don't even want to know but I just wonder if he actually misses me at all...even if he's moved on. I don't know, maybe it's just me but spending every signle day with someone and sharing over two years of my life with them---i would miss the person even if they were just a friend. Hell if I had a dog and one day it went away or I gave it away---I would miss them. lol I don't know, I wonder what he's up to, how he's been, if he ever thinks of me. Who knows what goes through our ex'es heads? well goodnight everybody!! getting paid tomorrow :bunny: then going shopping, getting my hair & nails done. I'm spoiling myself. Your ex is human, so he thinks of you. 2 years of his life was spent with you I'm sure he does think of you and may miss you. But once the breakup happens, you don't want to know what they are up to - why would you, since that reality no longer includes you? Any news you get will make you feel worse, esp if he's met someone else. Unfortunately, becoming a stranger in the ex's life is a casuality of the breakup, and it goes both way. Stay strong, enjoy your shopping!
JamesM Posted November 7, 2008 Posted November 7, 2008 No one can read his mind. Both answers could be correct. If his mind has mostly good memories of your time together, then he will miss you. If his memories of your time together are mostly bad, then he will not miss you. I broke up with two girls in the many years past, and I can say that when I remember our times together, then I do miss them...or who they were. No, I would not want to date them again (as I am married), but I do miss the times we had together. Does that mean I am not happier now? No. I am happy with who I have, but those memories are good. BTW, recently, I had a dream about my "favorite" ex, and I woke up with some sadness for what I had. I have no doubt that other guys experience some of those same feelings.
Peter_pan Posted November 7, 2008 Posted November 7, 2008 we had good and bad times, i really hope she remembers the good. towards the end when she didnt want to be with me, she would constantly tell me, "why are you acting as if we had the greatest relationship in the world" i mean wtf. i actually cannot believe the horrible things that came out her mouth. i physically couldn't be back with her now even though i miss her. its not fair
cashley Posted November 7, 2008 Posted November 7, 2008 I stopped wondering this week, caved and called him to see... Even the worst break ups leave some pain, and he admitted he wasnt eniterly 'over' me, and our 2 years, will always be 2 years spent together, those memories dont just go away. Even if theres somone else.. I expect to have these fleeting but other times overwhelming memories. I miss being in love. Not sure I miss my life with him. I miss certain things about him. But, im getting surer and surer, that, I dont want him back.
lofi_tokyo Posted November 7, 2008 Posted November 7, 2008 I stopped wondering this week, caved and called him to see... Even the worst break ups leave some pain, and he admitted he wasnt eniterly 'over' me, and our 2 years, will always be 2 years spent together, those memories dont just go away. Even if theres somone else.. I expect to have these fleeting but other times overwhelming memories. I miss being in love. Not sure I miss my life with him. I miss certain things about him. But, im getting surer and surer, that, I dont want him back. You broke up with your ex, right? What were the reasons behind doing so? It sounds like it was very hard letting go, but I am glad you are feeling more and more comfortable with your decision.
9Lives Posted November 29, 2008 Posted November 29, 2008 I definately wonder what my x is thinking. I told him not to call me anymore and I would not call him. I love him but it was not going to work anymore. I was not getting what I deserved out of the relationship so I had to make a move. I did change my phone number so I guess it is over for good now. That is what I wanted but I guess it is human to think and wonder what your ex is doing. I know he cared about me but not enough. I was like on standby and kind of the just in case chic. He dont have to settle and I will not either. I'm sure I am on his mind but I know he is talking to other chics and what-not so I am going to continue on this path.
replicator Posted November 29, 2008 Posted November 29, 2008 Yeah.. I think about it sometimes. I know she will feel some guilt now and then, but she was always good at blocking out thoughts that made her uncomfortable. Generally, not something I want to think about.
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