Mazda28 Posted November 7, 2008 Posted November 7, 2008 I was in a relationship that ended over a year ago (last Sept) We we're pretty serious. Talking about marriage and shopping for engagement rings- more his idea then mine. But anyway he ended ups saying he wanted to end it b/c we were having some arguments and getting on eachother's nerves a bit. Over silly things. Anyway he broke up w/ me via text message and not in person. Now out of the blue I get an email this week. Saying he wanted to say, hi, how are things ask 2-3 questions about how I was doing and then said "get back to me when if you get a chance" Why after an entire year would he decide to contact me? I've never had this happen and he hasn't crossed my mind in months. So this was a bit of a shock. Any ideas?
northstar1 Posted November 7, 2008 Posted November 7, 2008 I was in a relationship that ended over a year ago (last Sept) We we're pretty serious. Talking about marriage and shopping for engagement rings- more his idea then mine. But anyway he ended ups saying he wanted to end it b/c we were having some arguments and getting on eachother's nerves a bit. Over silly things. Anyway he broke up w/ me via text message and not in person. Now out of the blue I get an email this week. Saying he wanted to say, hi, how are things ask 2-3 questions about how I was doing and then said "get back to me when if you get a chance" Why after an entire year would he decide to contact me? I've never had this happen and he hasn't crossed my mind in months. So this was a bit of a shock. Any ideas? Could be he was seeing someone else, it ended, now he's coming back around. Regardless, he treated your poorly and ended things in a very cruel and immature way. Ignrore him. Karma's a bitch.
lofi_tokyo Posted November 7, 2008 Posted November 7, 2008 My guess would be exactly what Northstar has put down. He broke it off with you, dated someone in that time, things were not so wonderful and now hes either: A) Broken hearted over it and reaching out to someone who loved him once or B) Realizing he was an idiot by dumping your wonderful self.
Ingenue Posted November 7, 2008 Posted November 7, 2008 Regardless of the reason for the contact, I don't think you should give him any of your attention until you hear an earnest and remorseful apology for the cowardly way he broke up with you. Why give him another thought. He treated you shabbily and you deserve someone who is worthy of being with you. Easier said than done of course as curiosity is hard to shake. Personally, I think he needs a bit of a morale boost. You have no obligation to indulge him
justaman99 Posted November 7, 2008 Posted November 7, 2008 I would bet that what happened is this: He dated another girl or a couple girls after you broke up. They all sucked compared to you in many different ways. He probably just got dumped and is trying to salvage what he ****ed up over a year ago, what is easy and comfortable, or he's just trying to get laid. Either way he's a loser. The common denominator here and his failures is him. Ditch em. -Just
openbook08 Posted November 8, 2008 Posted November 8, 2008 agree with other posters looking for an ego boost from someone who responded to the email/fonecall/text msg trust me have respect for yourself youre worth so much more & it should take a LOT more than a half ass email wondering how you are before he gets the pleasure of hearin from your wonderful self again! ps we should start a club...the dumped by text message gang!
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