lovestruck818 Posted November 7, 2008 Posted November 7, 2008 usually I like to do a first date at a restaurant- lots of face to face talking time...traditional, I know, but it works. And if you're looking for a creative take on it, take her to a different kind of restaurant- maybe a different sort of food (thai, Indian etc). or a themed restaurant...something of that nature to jazz it up a bit. usually then if i want to see the person again maybe I will invite him to my place for a movie. then usually for the 3rd date that's when I suggest let's go out and do something...bowling, arcade, mini-golf....etc. My ex boyfriend took me ice skating on our first date which was very cute.
sandflea Posted November 7, 2008 Posted November 7, 2008 Do you know what types of things she like? If she appreciates Art, you could always go to an Art museum. Then...Perhaps after the Museum have her back to your place for desert? AP:) Yeah - go downtown to the Smithsonian or the Hirshorn or something. I think most of the museums are still free - and have tons of "conversation pieces" in them...
flc Posted November 7, 2008 Posted November 7, 2008 Yeah - go downtown to the Smithsonian or the Hirshorn or something. I think most of the museums are still free - and have tons of "conversation pieces" in them... Actually you are very lucky with so many places to go. There is nothing in Miami unless you want the beach or clubs. Absolutely no cultural stuff for the most part. after living in Chicago and San Fransisco coming here has been somewhat of a downer.
BubblyPopcorn Posted November 7, 2008 Posted November 7, 2008 Namely, she's a republican (I don't agree with many republican principles) Interesting concept, when you consider the "lefties" motto is all about "fairness". Hello kettle, are you black? ha ha active catholic (I don't do church), doesn't like unions (my work is related to unions), has 2 cats (I'm allergic). Perhaps take her "picketing" at your local catholic church and wear an anti-cats shirt while doing it? It's just a suggestion. lol, too funny.
Author rod_in_gtown Posted November 9, 2008 Author Posted November 9, 2008 Thanks for all the Ideas, the dinner was delicious, and afterwards we went to a quiet bar by the waterfront in Georgetown. When they kicked us out we went back to my place. :bunny:
Meaplus3 Posted November 9, 2008 Posted November 9, 2008 Good for you Rod.:bunny:I'm glad to hear it went well. AP:)
Author rod_in_gtown Posted November 11, 2008 Author Posted November 11, 2008 It's over, she went psycho on me. The day after, I'm spending time with my parents and have plans to go to the movies with my friends so we're texting back and forth sporadically. All of the sudden, out of the blue she starts accusing me of lying to her. After I get over the shock and finding out what she's talking about, apparently she asked someone to find out about me and that person told her that I was a party boy, heavy into politics and still not over my ex gf and my ex wife. she assumes that I'm using her as a rebound and tells me that she doesn't date liars... I'm floored, not only by this completely inaccurate information (whoever it was that she talked to does not know me), but more troubling is the fact that she chose to trust this source over me. After a long telephone conversation I tell her that I do not want to be in a relationship where my integrity is constantly questioned (this is the second time) and that we should just cut it off right there and then. Now she's accusing me of writing her off and being hypocritical because I asked for a chance to rebut the accusations. so damned because I do and damned because I don't. To end it, she goes on a passive aggresive tirade on how I'm completely right and that she's a bitch and that she is filled with drama and that I already made up my mind and that I'm right and she's wrong. While all of this is happening, I'm thinking to myself that it is not normal for a relationship to have this much drama after a week of knowing each other. and only a day after meeting for the first time... Wow, some women out there are really off their rockers.
2sure Posted November 14, 2008 Posted November 14, 2008 Wow, some women out there are really off their rockers. LOL. Ya got THAT right. You really do sound like a great guy. Its hard. Many men like to date women that are...maybe a little different, a little more interesting, a little more creative, a little more edgy etc. But its hard because quite often that leads to ...a little more crazy.
Shygirl15 Posted November 14, 2008 Posted November 14, 2008 After I get over the shock and finding out what she's talking about, apparently she asked someone to find out about me and that person told her that I was a party boy, heavy into politics and still not over my ex gf and my ex wife. Have a feeling she made that up. That is probably her own conclusion of you based on what she gathered from your previous conversations. While all of this is happening, I'm thinking to myself that it is not normal for a relationship to have this much drama after a week of knowing each other. and only a day after meeting for the first time... What is it with DC people and drama? Remember DCGirl33??
Author rod_in_gtown Posted November 14, 2008 Author Posted November 14, 2008 You really do sound like a great guy. Its hard. Many men like to date women that are...maybe a little different, a little more interesting, a little more creative, a little more edgy etc. But its hard because quite often that leads to ...a little more crazy. I have no problem dating nice boring girls, I'm not looking for someone to entertain me. The love of my life was a very nice, calm, drama-free, intelligent girl. She was the quintesential nice girl, but at the time I could not offer any kind of financial stability or a way to help her stay in the country legally. So I had to let her go. She's now married witha newborn baby. Have a feeling she made that up. That is probably her own conclusion of you based on what she gathered from your previous conversations. What is it with DC people and drama? Remember DCGirl33?? Well, I can't imagine how she could've come to that conclusion unless she was taking everything I said to be the opposite of what I meant. Her accusations were basically contradicting everything I told her... so she assumes I am 100% liar? It's just wrong either way. Yeah, I wouldn't be surprised if she made that up. In all honesty I don't care that much, either truth or fiction showed me her huge bag o' crazy and I want none of it. I really doubt DCGirl33 was real, she had me hooked on the first 100 or so posts and then she went surreal. Either a compulsive storyteller or a loner with an overactive imagination.
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted November 14, 2008 Posted November 14, 2008 Whoa, Rod! Craziness! I would have responded to this sooner, since you asked for advice from your fellow DC folks, but I just saw this. She sounds like a real psycho! That is some serious s**t she pulled on you. That is really weird. Count yourself the lucky one! As for dates in the future...Busboys and Poets is a great place because it has that funky coffehouse vibe yet you can drink or not drink, eat or not eat. HR 57 on 14th street near P is a great place for jazz and blues. You can bring your own beer. Just buy it at the Whole Foods around the corner. I'm pretty sure that Buffalo Billiards has darts. Darts can be really fun on a first date. It gives you something to focus on besides each other, and you can get a little closer by "helping" her to shoot. Also, it's usually free.
Author rod_in_gtown Posted November 15, 2008 Author Posted November 15, 2008 As for dates in the future...Busboys and Poets is a great place because it has that funky coffehouse vibe yet you can drink or not drink, eat or not eat. HR 57 on 14th street near P is a great place for jazz and blues. You can bring your own beer. Just buy it at the Whole Foods around the corner. I'm pretty sure that Buffalo Billiards has darts. Darts can be really fun on a first date. It gives you something to focus on besides each other, and you can get a little closer by "helping" her to shoot. Also, it's usually free. Hmmm HR 57 sounds like a great place. I'll probably try to get the next one over to B&P, I haven't been there in years but my date with Jen was going to be there. (I cancelled, I was very sick). I'm talking with this woman who is an attorney, she seems very sweet and we seem to have a lot of things in common. She recommended this chocolate factory in SF and I'm going to try to get her some dark chocolate from there (her favorite). I've got a good feeling about this one. I'll keep you posted on how it goes.
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted November 15, 2008 Posted November 15, 2008 Hmmm HR 57 sounds like a great place. I'll probably try to get the next one over to B&P, I haven't been there in years but my date with Jen was going to be there. (I cancelled, I was very sick). I'm talking with this woman who is an attorney, she seems very sweet and we seem to have a lot of things in common. She recommended this chocolate factory in SF and I'm going to try to get her some dark chocolate from there (her favorite). I've got a good feeling about this one. I'll keep you posted on how it goes. Awesome! I like the chocolate idea.
flc Posted November 17, 2008 Posted November 17, 2008 I'm talking with this woman who is an attorney, she seems very sweet and we seem to have a lot of things in common. She recommended this chocolate factory in SF and I'm going to try to get her some dark chocolate from there (her favorite). I've got a good feeling about this one. I'll keep you posted on how it goes. Ghirardelli's, it is pretty good stuff not the best but good chocolate. Fun place to go to with a date, been there a couple of times. Hope this one works out better for you. I just spent the weekend at Sanibel Is with my gf and had a wonderful time. Weather's cold today though down into the frigid 60s
Author rod_in_gtown Posted November 18, 2008 Author Posted November 18, 2008 Actually the chocolate factory is Scharffen Berger. I did go to the wharf on sat and Sunday, had some ghirardelli's shakes in ghirardelli plaza and some great seafood at scomo's or scomes or something like that. Someone else also mentioned scharffen Berger factory yesterday so I think I'm going to do it. PS, this town is amazing, definitely more single-friendly than DC. Or maybe it's just my lucky week? Hehe
flc Posted November 18, 2008 Posted November 18, 2008 Actually the chocolate factory is Scharffen Berger. I did go to the wharf on sat and Sunday, had some ghirardelli's shakes in ghirardelli plaza and some great seafood at scomo's or scomes or something like that. Someone else also mentioned scharffen Berger factory yesterday so I think I'm going to do it. PS, this town is amazing, definitely more single-friendly than DC. Or maybe it's just my lucky week? Hehe Interesting, lived in the Bay area for 10 years and never heard of it. I was married at the time so did not have the ability to check out the singles scene. I loved it there, lived in Livermore and worked in San Jose. Florida has better beaches and weather in the winter but the scenery in Norcal is tough to beat.
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