ohmy3 Posted November 6, 2008 Posted November 6, 2008 my husband is emotional unavailable to me an i am growing to hate him for it , maybe 1-2 time over our 13yrs marriage, has he ever held me when i am that upset to cry, (which isn't real often , like once in a blue moon) how do i trust him when in a time of need (crying-melt down) he will do nothing, all he needs 2 do is hug me in that part of pain ,i can't trust him w/ my feelings when i am weak he withdrawals (NEVER) comforts me how do u trust in that? "i feel like a fool" yes we have been in MC and he been asked to be more open agrees when we there (to show face i guess) however not able to w/ me in anyway, he has no compassion for me, yes 13-14 yrs of my life an upcoming BDAY (yr older) make me wonder what is the pay off i am getting outta this, he had a good up brining and very close w/ his mom and i see her hug him so i know it not about any 1 but him, i see that his actions in my time of need (it be a fight we had-death-or just overwhelmed w/ life) that trigger tears from me - he willn't display any compassion towards an i know he's able to as we have 2 kids and he comforts them when they may have a time of need..... I say again " I feel like SUCH A FOOL" ........ our true feelings show in our actions (well my belief). and his seems to NOT be of any goodness in his heart for me, if i can't trust him to be my rock when i fall it being this simple i mean simple how do you contuine living like what you know and see as uncaring = to love?
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