davidjor Posted November 6, 2008 Posted November 6, 2008 well my ex and i broke up in march, when i lived in Panama. Well i moved back to the usa and continued to try and be friends with her. She would need money, and would be a dumb ass and give it to her. Well last week, i just went cold turkey and blocked her from IM. Thought I would get an e-mail or phone call but i did not. Anyway, today i had to re-install messenger back on mu computer and somehow when i logged into messenger she immediately sent me an IM. asking how my weekend was, i said good but i had to go. Then later tonight she sent me another message that went as follows: Her: Hey, how are you Me: Good, you? Me: What did you do today? Her: I was out, i just got home Me: Where did you go? Her: None of your business This immediately pissed me off, so i sent her an a text message saying "**** YOU" . She immediately blocked me from her instant messenger list. So anyway, I was going to try to continue to help her by giving her a job in Panama (I am moving back there, to start another business) So i sent her an email saying, i was going to give her a job but not the way she has been treating me. I told her i would just as well see her living on the street or being a prostitute than ever help her again. Anyway, i am pissed hurt... and said some pretty bad things. advice ?
lofi_tokyo Posted November 6, 2008 Posted November 6, 2008 Just keep her blocked on your IM's. Cut her out entirely. She sounds completely dependent on your support but not in love. You deserve better. That conversation was completely psychotic. Did you do something terrible to hurt her? Because it almost sounds like she misses you, wants to talk, but hates you too. Like she just kinda flip flops from one emotion to the other. MAYBE you should apologize for being so hurtful. Those words were kind of mean. But thats it. Apologize, then move on. FULL NC! You'll find someone a little less crazy. But we're all a little crazy, so... yeah!
sultry33 Posted November 6, 2008 Posted November 6, 2008 well my ex and i broke up in march, when i lived in Panama. Well i moved back to the usa and continued to try and be friends with her. She would need money, and would be a dumb ass and give it to her. Well last week, i just went cold turkey and blocked her from IM. Thought I would get an e-mail or phone call but i did not. Anyway, today i had to re-install messenger back on mu computer and somehow when i logged into messenger she immediately sent me an IM. asking how my weekend was, i said good but i had to go. Then later tonight she sent me another message that went as follows: Her: Hey, how are you Me: Good, you? Me: What did you do today? Her: I was out, i just got home Me: Where did you go? Her: None of your business This immediately pissed me off, so i sent her an a text message saying "**** YOU" . She immediately blocked me from her instant messenger list. So anyway, I was going to try to continue to help her by giving her a job in Panama (I am moving back there, to start another business) So i sent her an email saying, i was going to give her a job but not the way she has been treating me. I told her i would just as well see her living on the street or being a prostitute than ever help her again. Anyway, i am pissed hurt... and said some pretty bad things. advice ? stop it will just become an emiotional battleground she may respond if she needs you but wanting you is another thing if its seriously over then keep it that way
alphamale Posted November 6, 2008 Posted November 6, 2008 advice ? don't ever stay friends or in contact with an ex unless you have kids together
Author davidjor Posted November 6, 2008 Author Posted November 6, 2008 thanks guys for your posts, i could literally write a book about this relationship i had with her. But some of her real flaws, and i guess mine are as follows: 1. we use to go out 3-4 times per week to the casino, she would never ever ever want to go home until we spent every penny i had in my pocket, usually 1,000 - 3,000 thousand dollars per night. 2. She would never leave sober, she was always drunk to the point when we finally did go home she would throw up. 3. She emotionally checked out of the relationship months before we actually broke up, for some unknown reason i did not see it happen. 4. There are many more issues, issues with her childhood, issues with her self esteme. On a plus side, she is absolutely beautiful... guess that is what has me addicted.
sandrawg Posted November 6, 2008 Posted November 6, 2008 There are a LOT of beautiful women out there who are a lot more stable.
Author davidjor Posted November 6, 2008 Author Posted November 6, 2008 I just sent her an e-mail to apologize to her for the conversation yesterday. Told her to take care of herself, she replied was "IT'S OK" Guess, now i can remove her from IM and start over with NO CONTACT. The temptation is going to be hard since I will be back in Panama in a couple of weeks and I do not know anyone.
Author davidjor Posted November 7, 2008 Author Posted November 7, 2008 anyone have any more input on this?
lofi_tokyo Posted November 7, 2008 Posted November 7, 2008 It sounds to me like you're on the right road. It maybe hard since you'll be in her town, but resist seeing her at all costs. You'll meet people. If the temptation starts getting super strong to contact her, post here with a huge long rant if you need to! It helps!
sultry33 Posted November 7, 2008 Posted November 7, 2008 anyone have any more input on this? Beautiful people can be damn ugly inside;) I used to put most of the attraction in looks but i get bored very easily Just keep busy and go to new places get yourself a good distraction and dont feed her ego.. you can see yourself that its not all good and you deserve better.. did she ever pay? Im a modern woman in that i pay my way come and rant here we help you x
EmperorR Posted November 7, 2008 Posted November 7, 2008 Beautiful people can be damn ugly inside;) I used to put most of the attraction in looks but i get bored very easily Just keep busy and go to new places get yourself a good distraction and dont feed her ego.. you can see yourself that its not all good and you deserve better.. did she ever pay? Im a modern woman in that i pay my way come and rant here we help you x ah Im the same way, my ex was very very beautiful, but in the end she was the most ugliest person I ever met, inside callous mean cold.
sultry33 Posted November 7, 2008 Posted November 7, 2008 ah Im the same way, my ex was very very beautiful, but in the end she was the most ugliest person I ever met, inside callous mean cold. true colours come out in the end as they say my ex was always ugly inside an out.. i just wore rose tinted glasses;) honestly he was so not my type it was unreal but as said you cannot choose who you love i met him when i was vulnerable and he made me feel that i needed him..made me feel safe used to worry about me so much, now he couldnt give a s hit love is such a funny thing:love:
Author davidjor Posted November 7, 2008 Author Posted November 7, 2008 Sul, Thanks for all your advise. Now, i just have to get out of the habit of looking at her online networking profile. I know she is seeing someone else, I think she was trying to use me for a safety net just in case that did not work out. NOT GOING TO HAPPEN, i am not going to be her or anyone's safety net or backup plan. It has been a long road with her, and she has caused me allot of pain. As a matter of fact, I have had relationships that lasted 5 times longer than this one, and I walked away never looking back. For some reason, this girl got me good. But, I usually once I am finished with a relationship I am finish. It did not happen this way with this girl for some reason. I am now, getting to the point where I am actually hate her. I do not like to hate anyone, however I am really starting to actually hate her. DJ
CarrieT Posted November 7, 2008 Posted November 7, 2008 Guess, now i can remove her from IM and start over with NO CONTACT. The temptation is going to be hard since I will be back in Panama in a couple of weeks and I do not know anyone. anyone have any more input on this? I also had a business in Panama. Hang out at the Balboa Yacht Club or the bars on Amador to meet other ex-patriots. A very friendly bunch and you'll have friends in no time. Continue NC and in NO WAY give her a job.
Author davidjor Posted November 7, 2008 Author Posted November 7, 2008 Carry, what type of business did you have there. I had one, and am going to start another. I was thinking about giving her a job, but now i will ABSOLUTELY NOT. Prostitution is legal there, so there are other ways she can make money... Sorry, that is harsh but being nice to her actually never worked.
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