luciian Posted November 5, 2008 Posted November 5, 2008 my fiance of almost 2 years cheated on me with a friend we have a 4 month old baby, and he said it was only once and confessed because he felt terrible he says he really regrets it and said i kind of pushed him since i was always accusing him of cheating im so heartbroken and hurt i dont know what to do i forgave him but i cant seem to forget it im trying my best but i just cant we always fight now because of this because i just cant forget he says to leave it all in the past and thats what im doing now .. any advice..?
Lizzie60 Posted November 5, 2008 Posted November 5, 2008 You need to 'back off' and stop nagging him about it.. Either you forgive him.. or leave him.. you can't go on and on being jealous, and getting on his nerves about what he did... He confessed, he said he's sorry.. so now.. you need to decide what you want ... stay with him and the baby and forgive what happened (and not bringing it up anymore) or leave him .... simple as that. If you don't stop nagging.. you will push him away..
Dexter Morgan Posted November 7, 2008 Posted November 7, 2008 You need to 'back off' and stop nagging him about it.. Oh she needs to "back off" alright. Back off and leave his sorry butt. He confessed, he said he's sorry :love::love: You hear that? he said he is sorry. That makes it all better. .. so now.. you need to decide what you want ... stay with him and the baby and forgive what happened (and not bringing it up anymore) or leave him .... simple as that. I'd vote for leaving him and taking him to court for child support. If you don't stop nagging.. you will push him away.. Yup, its all her fault isn't it?
Mahatma Posted November 7, 2008 Posted November 7, 2008 You should forgive, but you should also leave him. There is no reason to hold a grudge, but you can never fully trust him again. He will never fully trust you either because in the back of his head he will know "well I cheated..." if you two are going through a rough patch. End it.
Dexter Morgan Posted November 7, 2008 Posted November 7, 2008 You should forgive, but you should also leave him. There is no reason to hold a grudge, but you can never fully trust him again. He will never fully trust you either because in the back of his head he will know "well I cheated..." if you two are going through a rough patch. End it. I 2nd this post
Jersey Shortie Posted November 8, 2008 Posted November 8, 2008 Honestly Lizzie, actually she can because he is the one that broke the trust in the relationship. It's still fresh and she still needs time to heal and that isn't an over night fix based on the fact that he came clean. To the OP, he is still being selfish. He might have confessed but now he gets mad at you for being upset? Come on. He isn't thinking about you and your feelings. He said "you kind of" pushed him into it? He isn't taking responsiblity for what he did. It sounds to me that he has confessed now he expects to still have your faith, trust, love and respect with no consequences. It doesn't work like that because he broke all of those with his deception. I suggest you both go to counceling for it if you really want to save the relationship. If he is really repent about what he did, he will want to do anything to gain your trust back. Not get into fights with you because of your hurt over what he did. He can't expect things to be all happy and carefree just because he confessed to something that breaks apart relationships.
Vertex Posted November 8, 2008 Posted November 8, 2008 Honestly Lizzie, actually she can because he is the one that broke the trust in the relationship. It's still fresh and she still needs time to heal and that isn't an over night fix based on the fact that he came clean. To the OP, he is still being selfish. He might have confessed but now he gets mad at you for being upset? Come on. He isn't thinking about you and your feelings. He said "you kind of" pushed him into it? He isn't taking responsiblity for what he did. It sounds to me that he has confessed now he expects to still have your faith, trust, love and respect with no consequences. It doesn't work like that because he broke all of those with his deception. I suggest you both go to counceling for it if you really want to save the relationship. If he is really repent about what he did, he will want to do anything to gain your trust back. Not get into fights with you because of your hurt over what he did. He can't expect things to be all happy and carefree just because he confessed to something that breaks apart relationships. Seconded -- 100% agreed. Personally, anyone who cheats on me is totally out, without exception. It's especially bad if they try to displace the blame for something that's clearly their own doing.
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