Jamez123 Posted November 5, 2008 Posted November 5, 2008 I can't take being without my ex anymore, who was my first true love - i know it's such a cliché. It's nearing what would have been our year anniversary and also christmas, when last year we were inseperable. The only thing that went bad in our relationship was me being overly jealous of her making new friends when she went to college (english sixth form college, not university), and getting really close to people and spending all her time with them rather than me, thus making me feel annoyed and saying nasty things about everyone and occasionally saying unkind things about her interests. I was the worst person making such pathetic assumptions and she had every reason to dump me i'm so aware of that. She said she tried and tried to stay with me but she couldn't, and it's because right up until the end, i made promises to change and broke them all the time. It's just incredibly hard, two months on and i miss her more everyday i just feel like a massive chunk has been taken out of me, i feel half dead. I'm trying so so hard to get over her but any mention of her name, or if i dwell on a memory of her for more than a few seconds i feel so upset. Now we're both only 17 okay, and i'm sure that most people on here will be like 'you're just kids, you've got your whole lives ahead of you' but seriously i just felt like she was the one and she said the same thing to me. She just seems so against us ever getting back together again and i really don't know why, i don't know if she's just saying it or what. I've always been a sufferer of sometimes severe depression through my horrible teenage years, and the break up has made it so bad that i really feel like i need help. I understand that it must sound like i'm desperate for her, i'm not, i just develop strong bonds with people too easily and i still feel so in love with her.
lofi_tokyo Posted November 5, 2008 Posted November 5, 2008 Its absolutely alright to still be in love with her. I think its impossible (at least for me) to turn off love like a switch. Keep on with no contact if you can, or keep on just... keeping on, and you'll begin to find yourself slowly falling out of love with her. That doesn't mean the love with vanish entirely, but you'll find someone else to love even more passionately than your ex. The most important thing is to let go of the idea of getting her back someday. Thats the only real roadblock I think that holds people back. Once you open your heart to the possibility of loving another, they hey, maybe she wasn't the one (even if it seems like she most likely was), you're moving on.
Peter_pan Posted November 6, 2008 Posted November 6, 2008 your be ok man, look at it as a learning experience, people change when they hit 21 especially girls, imagine being with her from when you are 17 to 21 and then she leaves you for someone else. thats pretty much my story... my first love to.. live your life then settle down. dont have regrets
EmperorR Posted November 6, 2008 Posted November 6, 2008 your be ok man, look at it as a learning experience, people change when they hit 21 especially girls, imagine being with her from when you are 17 to 21 and then she leaves you for someone else. thats pretty much my story... my first love to.. live your life then settle down. dont have regrets thats my story, except my ex was 20
JooLee Posted November 6, 2008 Posted November 6, 2008 hi, all of us has been through thi situation, had the thoughts and written the exact thing as yours. and as time goes by, we get better. we here at LS are living proof that things gets better and we will make it through. its difficult i know, but sometimes we have to stop and tell the heart to behave and think rationally. you being this way is no good. you thinking you cant live wthout her and no one, nothing can fix you but her - that is entirely not true. the only person that can fix this situation is you. but you have to want to be better. you have to want to stop being miserable and start living your life. those romantic stuff that love conquers it all and bla bla bla is just in the movies. in real life, you gotta get back up on your feet and start anew. do things for yourself. basically what im trying to say is, you can stop missing her, you can stop feeling miserable if you want to stop. it will take time, but it will be worth it. just hang in there, keep yr head up. this is your life and its about you. you deserve the best and the girl who threw you aside is not on your level. breathe and smile. it will make a difference.
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