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broke up with stressed out girl - now I want her back


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I just recently broke up with my girlfriend because she told me that she could 'flip a coin as to whether or not we should be together'. She has been under a lot of stress and everytime i tried to discuss my feelings about certain changes in her behavior she took it as an attack. I realize my shortcommings in how diplomatically I was handiling everything, however what she said to me hurt me very deeply. I broke it off with her telling her that I don't want to be with someone who feels that way about me. I wouldn't mind working things out, but I refuse to be walked all over and there was no way I was gonna sit around waiting for her to make up her mind. I told her there was no reason we couldn't be friends and she has taken that to mean she can text and call me all the time like when we were bf and gf. This feels like torture to me. I'd like to work things out, she really is a wonderful girl when she's not so stressed. I refuse to kiss her rump though, I feel like she should approach me at this point. Don't know whether to tell her to give it a rest for now or not. I don't want to hurt her but I don't want to be hurt myself.

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I told her there was no reason we couldn't be friends and she has taken that to mean she can text and call me all the time like when we were bf and gf.

 

You allowed for this to happen by saying we can be friends but you lied to her and yourself. You're not capable of being friends because you hope for something more from her and it's not there. You need to remove yourself from her life and she needs to remove herself from yours. Let some time go by, be alone, learn to be alone and become a stronger man for it. Then after this time has gone by you'll be able to see more clearly what you want.

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