Bells Posted November 5, 2008 Posted November 5, 2008 Lately....I have met some women online that admitted in their profile that someone else created the profile for them...not them....is this a turn off?
Tony T Posted November 5, 2008 Posted November 5, 2008 Lately....I have met some women online that admitted in their profile that someone else created the profile for them...not them....is this a turn off? It's not as much a turn off as it is a lie. You have to be one naive little bugger to believe that crap. When I hear stuff like this it just turns me off even more to the whole online deal.
Author Bells Posted November 5, 2008 Author Posted November 5, 2008 It's not as much a turn off as it is a lie. You have to be one naive little bugger to believe that crap. When I hear stuff like this it just turns me off even more to the whole online deal. Well, last one I heard was "My sister did it for me as a gift, because I am divorced and she says, 'I need to get back out there!'lol" Ever get a gift of a Online dating subscription?
2sure Posted November 5, 2008 Posted November 5, 2008 LOL. I was thinking lie too - until I read the last post. Several years ago, my sister was widowed at a fairly young age. Having been out of the dating scene for awhile I thought on line dating was a good way to get her feet wet. But she had almost no computer skills. So, I paid for and created her account. She caught right on and loved it.
Star Gazer Posted November 5, 2008 Posted November 5, 2008 Lately....I have met some women online that admitted in their profile that someone else created the profile for them...not them....is this a turn off? The only person that should matter to is YOU. Is it a turn off to YOU? (Seeing as you NEVER answer my questions, I'll assume you won't answer that one either.)
Shygirl15 Posted November 5, 2008 Posted November 5, 2008 I agree. Since you are the one who met such people, you need to direct this question to yourself.
flc Posted November 5, 2008 Posted November 5, 2008 And for someone who spends so much time bashing online dating you sure spend a lot of time online
CommitmentPhobe Posted November 5, 2008 Posted November 5, 2008 Bells are you doing a degree in dating or something?
rod_in_gtown Posted November 5, 2008 Posted November 5, 2008 Big turn-off for me. It tells me that A, you don't want to be there, and if you are, then you're not likely to put in the time to be there. B, you put it up under the "my friend did it for me" guise, in which case, you lie rather than own up to your choices. Not appealing to me either way.
lovingme Posted November 5, 2008 Posted November 5, 2008 just make sure that it's actually them. that's all i have to say. who cares who created the account, as long as the person is real.
PrincessPeach Posted November 6, 2008 Posted November 6, 2008 If it's true, there really isn't any reason to mention it because it doesn't really matter. If it comes up later in getting to know the person you can mention it if you want and it wouldn't be a big deal. If it's not true, then it just means that whoever it is, is ashamed or insecure about online dating sites and profiles, which to me would be unattractive if I were looking for someone that way. It'd be like meeting someone during speed dating who say he only came because his friend did. That person really has little business there and makes it frustrating for the people actually there for the purpose of meeting potential dates.
Author Bells Posted November 6, 2008 Author Posted November 6, 2008 If it's true, there really isn't any reason to mention it because it doesn't really matter. If it comes up later in getting to know the person you can mention it if you want and it wouldn't be a big deal. If it's not true, then it just means that whoever it is, is ashamed or insecure about online dating sites and profiles, which to me would be unattractive if I were looking for someone that way. It'd be like meeting someone during speed dating who say he only came because his friend did. That person really has little business there and makes it frustrating for the people actually there for the purpose of meeting potential dates. Yeah, I heard someone said that the girls that showed up at the Speed dating events, already had boyfriends, but the ditzes participated anyways.
allina Posted November 6, 2008 Posted November 6, 2008 A lot of people are still uneasy about online dating. Although it's so mainstream now, there is still that stigma that online dates are losers and can't get dates IRL. I think this makes some people a little embarrassed about putting themselves out there and encourages these little excuses. I don't think it would be a turn off for me. But, it would be annoying if things got serious and expected me to lie about how we met.
Trialbyfire Posted November 6, 2008 Posted November 6, 2008 If people are embarrassed about online dating, why do it? For that matter, why do things you're going to be embarrassed about at all?
allina Posted November 6, 2008 Posted November 6, 2008 I don't know, but people sure do a lot of stuff that they're embarrassed of and don't want others to find out about.
Author Bells Posted November 6, 2008 Author Posted November 6, 2008 I don't know, but people sure do a lot of stuff that they're embarrassed of and don't want others to find out about. You know what, I have noticed that...and it isn't limited to just online dating, too.
allina Posted November 6, 2008 Posted November 6, 2008 You know what, I have noticed that...and it isn't limited to just online dating, too. I should have quoted TBF, as the above was a response to her. But definitely, it does apply to a lot of people and not just in online dating.
Author Bells Posted November 6, 2008 Author Posted November 6, 2008 I should have quoted TBF, as the above was a response to her. But definitely, it does apply to a lot of people and not just in online dating. Yeah, esp if they are middle aged and participated in "Girls Gone Wild" type stuff over the weekend.
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