Melrapuo Posted November 5, 2008 Posted November 5, 2008 I've been single for about 5 months or so. Anyway, one of my friend's gf told me that there is a girl that has supposedly asked about me. Now the girl is pretty cute, and from what I've seen she's got a nice personality. Kinda immature, but I'm not calling myself an adult either. The friend's gf said that this girl thinks I'm cute (even though I don't have tattoos. I'm currently designing one for myself, but that's a different story), and the gf told me to try and talk to her on Halloween. I said ok, fine. No problem. However, everytime I tried to talk to her, it seemed like she was ignoring me or not looking at me at all. Granted, I did have Joker make-up on, so looking at a face like that doesn't necessarily make things comfortable. I figured maybe that was it, and backed off a bit so I didn't seem too pushy (in case she wasn't interested, or she was maybe too shy and didn't wanna come off creepy.) Later that night we end up at the gf's house, and she's like "Why didn't you try and talk to her?" I explained everything, and kinda felt weird about it. But a few hours later the girl came back over, and it this point I didn't know what to think. I felt like an ass if I tried to talk to her again and got the silent treatment, but my friend said to try and go for it. So I did. Same result. This is sans make-up. So I went up to the gf and was like "WTF?" She said that maybe I should let the girl try and come to me. Now since then I've tried to leave subtle little hints at attempting a conversation over facebook (we were friends on it beforehand). And facebook also has this social profile thing which allows you to see if you would or wouldn't date somebody. I figured "Hell, if I could leave a direct 'Yes' or 'No' kinda answer that she can see, maybe she'll respond." So I clicked "Yes" that I would date her. About an hour later, she responds the with the same. So now what? Do I try to start a casual conversation with her? Wait until I see her again face to face? Keep in mind, I'm a shy guy. But then again, I wanna break out of my damn shell and start meeting newer girls. Advice? O, and I'll leave another good part. She just broke up with her bf a week or two ago. Big red flag, I know. That's why I'm not hardcore pursuing this, because for all I know she could be looking for a rebound. I wouldn't mind one myself, but then again I know I might get attached. Eek.
Suiyobi Posted November 5, 2008 Posted November 5, 2008 You might wanna leave her alone for a bit. You've already done that you could to show that you're interested in her but she's not reciprocating. The fact that she just recently broke up with her boyfriend might have something to do with that. When she's ready, she'll come to you.
sand26 Posted November 6, 2008 Posted November 6, 2008 If she is young, she probably just wants a rebound right now. Maybe less talky talky and more action. Grab her, kiss her, take her.
Author Melrapuo Posted November 9, 2008 Author Posted November 9, 2008 Maybe less talky talky and more action. Grab her, kiss her, take her. Did just that. Hooked up for a bit, cuddled for a while. Kissed goodnight. Fun stuff. : ) But I'm still holding back a bit, because I know that she is probably still rebounding. If that's the case, then that was just that. Not gonna force anything more unless it seems like it gets a bit more serious.
Author Melrapuo Posted November 11, 2008 Author Posted November 11, 2008 OK, so I'm gonna still ask for opinions on the matter. I haven't heard from her since Saturday. Didn't ask for her number that night, because I didn't know exactly what she wanted. When we were on the couch, she kinda laid with her head facing the couch itself while we watched tv (friends were across from us.) She notably sighed a lot. I would've tried to do more, but its kinda weird with friends right there, and it wasn't my house. I tried to be nice about things. She laid down with her legs across mine, and we watched some TV. She didn't have a blanket, so I took off my sweatshirt and put it over her. I joked about a few things, she laughed. She's a nice girl, and cute. But like I said, she just broke up with her bf around 2-3 weeks ago. So I'm afraid to pursue this for more, cuz I don't want to look like an ass/feel like **** and get dumped after being a rebound. I just got out of a 2 year relationship about 6 months ago, and I'm still kinda reeling from that. Being protective of how I feel, ya know? Anyway, when we were about to leave she kissed me goodnight. First she bit my lip (ooo...o yea), and we kissed for a little longer before she left with her friend. No numbers were exchanged, and haven't talked to her. I've never been in a situation where its a possible rebound/FWB kinda moment. I've only dated one girl, and that lasted for 2 years (like I said before). ****, this is only the second girl I've ever kissed. I know for sure that rebounds suck, though. And FWB can get even worse. Do I have a next move, at all? Or should I just sit this one out? We have mutual friends, so its not like I'm not going to see her soon again (unless she chooses to do otherwise). I dunno...its like my friends have been trying to get me to do this for 3 weeks. Apparently this girl asked about me. But I'm getting the feeling that this was just a hook-up kinda moment too. This is definitely an awkward situation for me, cuz I have no clue what to do next (if anything). All advice appreciated. : )
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