Viscerality Posted November 4, 2008 Posted November 4, 2008 So, I was with a girl for a year and three months when she moved away, and we started our long distance relationship. Three weeks into it, she cheated on me, then lied about all of it. I found out what happened through my own means. She found some other guy after cheating on me, he wanted to be with her, and they ended up together. She told me she wanted a "break," which is what led me to discovering all of this. She's treated me like complete **** just because of her guilt and the fact that she has someone else already (they have already had sex, too). She told me she is still in love with me. But... with the way I've been treated? Ugh. She is coming home for Thanksgiving, and wants to fool around with me, while she's with this other guy. I told her that even though she cheated on me, if she's with someone, I don't want to have sex. If I do anything, all the pain and things I've gone through will have been in vain, and would be like telling her that cheating truly is OK. I feel pathetic and weak for not being able to cut off contact with her. Help me.
BikerBeagle Posted November 5, 2008 Posted November 5, 2008 Have you ever heard of a 'trotline'? ...it's a fishing technique that basically employes a string with lots of hooks on it. You, fishy fishy, are on the trotline. =)
lofi_tokyo Posted November 5, 2008 Posted November 5, 2008 A solution to your feeling week is to realize this: You're posting on the second chance forums, meaning you are hoping you will be able to get her back. As it stands, you're not making her miss you deeply, shes only missing you on the surface, so you're never going to get her back. You need to cut her off if you want a second chance. That being said, NC is meant to heal, and can't really be used as a method to win someone back. So... Shes gone. She cheated. Move on. Its hard, but only as hard as you let it be. Let go.
BCCA Posted November 5, 2008 Posted November 5, 2008 Let me break it down for you man: 1. She cheated on you. Not only that, she lied and shows no remorse for her actions. RED FLAG 2. She is with someone else and wants to fool around with you. Remember how you felt when you realized she cheated? How badly your heary ached? Yeah, thats what shes trying to do to someone else. RED FLAG 3. Youre posting on a second chance forum, but this girl only wants a second chance in the sack. She doesnt want to get back together, or even entertain the notion, she just wants to screw you behind this guys back. Guess what? THIS is how she is...she is a selfish cheater, and only cares about whats good for her right now, regardless of what it does to other people. RED FLAG You need to look yourself in the mirror, and say as loud as you can to yourself "MAN THE F**K UP"! You gotta get some balls and tell this chick to hit the bricks. You dont want anything to do with her, hell...you dont even know where shes been or who shes been there with. She views everyone else in the world as a pawn for her entertainment, and thats all she'll ever see if people let her get away with it. Screw that, F her. Youre better than that.
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